I'm married and having a relationship with a married woman. Her husband is lazy and takes her for granted leaving her to do everything in the house and garden and for the kids. I'd leave my wife for her but can't persuade her to leave the good for nothing slob. How would I persuade her to leave him or am I chasing a lost cause?
2006-09-24 09:27:04 · 36 answers · asked by Geronimo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you silly silly person.
end it with your wife 1st
although i dont think you have the bottle or you would of done that already.
2006-09-24 09:30:06 · answer #1 · answered by Raine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you leave your wife first or have you not got the balls to do that?
Maybe that way your affair partner will see you really do mean business and a real commitment for this relationship that your are in with her. Then of course its up to her to decide what she wants to do and if she feels the same as you then that shouldn't be a problem.
No point in staying in a marriage if your 'in love' someone else or are going on to have other affairs in the future because clearly your not happy where you are, and after all if you really loved and respected your wife and your marriage you would have NEVER have cheated in the first place
I do not doubt, that, even if the other woman did not leave her marriage for you, you will either both continue as you are or decide to end it, then maybe even bide your time at home until something better comes along. Yes a lot of men like to enjoy their home comforts and get things done for them even if their not happy at home or in love with their wife any more. Always better to have someone than live a life alone and do all the domestic stuff yourself eh? yet somehow theres always enough love found in the marriage for that at least.
If you have any decency and any love for your wife left, then you should get out of your marriage anyway, wither this other woman decides to leave hers for you or not, and that way you give your wife the chance to find the real love and happiness SHE deserves.
2006-09-24 13:23:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should NOT put this poor woman in a position were she has to stay with her Husband who may be good for nothing buy is still her husband, or leave her life behind to go with a man who himself is married to a woman he loved!!! You are a terrible man for doing so!!! You need to move so the person you are having an affair with cant find you, and you need to go!!! Do NOT ever talk to her again and dont even TRY to contact her!!!!!! It will only make things worse for you!!!! You are lucky your wife and her husband did not find out or boy o boy you would be in deep poopoo!!! Take my advice... I am only a 13 year old girl but I mean well!!!
2006-09-24 10:15:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should step back and really look at what you're both doing. Your life will be cursed even if you both left and got together. What your doing is wrong, so it won't work out for either of you. You should focus on your marriage and leave her alone. Also, you don't need her to leave just to leave your wife - sounds like you only want to leave if you think your life would be greener on the other side. NEVER gonna happen. BEWARE! Also, if you are gonna continue to cheat on your wife, do her a favor and just tell her so she can live her life and leave you.
2006-09-24 10:39:58 · answer #4 · answered by questionable 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What business do you have as a married man to be seeing a married woman?? If you are so unhappy, leave you wife first. You don't deserve her and she shouldn't have to put up with you. And as for the other woman. She needs to take care of her own family first. It's her choice to stay with or leave her husband. If she were as unhappy as you think she is, she would have got out already. You both have no right to put your families through this!!
I really feel bad for your wife. You are pure scum!! Your wife should leave you!!
2006-09-24 10:12:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this women is not going to leave her husband or she would of done it by now.so if i was you I'd leave her alone then if she does really want to be with u then she will come to you but only tell her that the only way u two can be together if u both leave your partners. if u don't love your wife to the right thing and leave her.if this other women don't leave her husband then don't worry as there is plenty more out there that re right for u.plzs don't stay in a marriage that is dead as its not fair on any of you.but i really think she is not going to leave him,but if she doesn't love him do tell her not to stay just for the kids, and if she does leave him tell her that you will give her space if she needs it as i think she might want. if u need to talk more about what i have said plzs feel free to email me.
2006-09-24 09:51:56 · answer #6 · answered by twinmum1979 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the first intence. You should not be seeing a married woman. Regardless of what her husband is like. I have just found out that my wife is seeing some1 else. I'm going to get him big time. Hope it's not you. Look out. But then i dont fit the profile of her husband. So you could be safe. But believe me. With what you are doing. Some one is going to get hurt. One other thing. What is the name and age of your lover?
2006-09-24 15:27:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to leave on her own.If you force her to leave then she will forever be looking back no matter how big of a slob he is. Let her get fed up with it and don't take the safe road for yourself. Divorce your wife and make yourself available to her.She may not be doing anything because she doesn't believe that you will leave your wife and she will be with no one with her two kids.
2006-09-24 11:22:27 · answer #8 · answered by Nikie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ARE the lost cause, and are chasing another lost cause.
How do you think your wife would describe YOU to her lover?
Wouldn't YOU be the lazy good for nothing who is never home and never tends to his part of the partnership?
Go home.
Make your relationship with your wife better.
Quit philandering.
Discover good ethical behavior.
It does have its benefits
2006-09-24 09:42:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry mate but you dont sound to nice either, your cheating on you wife, why would any woman choose you over the father of her children, yes she is having an affair with you but maybe her husband just lacks something in the bedroom but is really good at everything else, i actually think your wife is with the lost cause.
2006-09-25 03:01:22 · answer #10 · answered by mereidmell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really can't stay married then I would leave your wife, but I think marriage is for life, try working on your own marriage and leave well alone, don't interfere with someone elses.
2006-09-24 09:49:04 · answer #11 · answered by good tree 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋