To be perfectly blunt, I don't get horny. My boyfriend wants to jump me all the time but I just don't want to have sex. Now my man is Gorgeous, totally a sweetie, so it's not a problem there and it's not a problem of me being comfoirtable with myself either. I think that I'm attractive, I have a good attitude and am all around- comfortable. I just for some reason, never want to have sex. My boyfriend and I get into arguements about it because he gets frustrated that I don't want to. We have done it before and it was great, but the thing is, I only enjoy it after we're almost done and it's hard to even get there because I never want to start.
Please help me. Seriously. I don't know if it's just my hormones but I can't take the fighting anymore. Is there something I can take to boost the libido in me or what? Thanks a bunch.
2006-09-24 09:08:27 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Your completely normal! Some women especially in their early years have a low sex drive. What should you do about him getting angry? Your guess is as good as mine. Welcome to the most common male complaint of all times.
2006-09-24 09:14:51 · answer #1 · answered by niaflower 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you could take something to help your libido but you may have a deeper rooted problem. There are conditions where your are not able to get physically aroused so you might want to see a doctor to rule out that first or to get something from the doctor. You may have some intimacy issues that you are not aware of. These issues would have nothing to do with your boyfriend but they could be from experiences in your life. For example you may have a fear of intimacy because you lost someone close to you when you were young. (just one type of example). These issues are usually buried very deeply and you may need to do some digging to find out more about yourself. Your boyfriend is hurting because he feels rejected but by fighting about it, it makes the situation worse. You might want to talk about how you are feeling at a time when he is not in the mood and be completely honest with him. Make sure to include him in the process and that will help him to not feel so insecure. Good luck.
2006-09-24 09:23:40 · answer #2 · answered by superrrmodel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you depressed? maybe you are and dont even realize it. that can affect you sex drive. Also, certain medications can affect your sex drive (especially antidepressants) . Maybe your hormones are low. You should see your DR. If the prob. is bad enough that it is affecting your relationship then you should not feel silly about seeking professional advice. Good luck to you,..hope things get better.
2006-09-24 09:18:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never want to have sex?!
Have you always been this way?
Physically things seem to be working because you can get to a point where you enjoy sex.
Definitely get your hormone levels checked.
2006-09-24 09:16:26 · answer #4 · answered by happinessdreamer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are things that women can get to help boost the sex drive. Like men have viagra, women have things to help them too. I don't get in the mood easily either so I know how you feel. Have you tried watching porn? I know some people don't watch that stuff but it helps me.
2006-09-24 09:21:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you on the pill? Many women experience complete loss of sex drive when taking the pill. Ask your doctor about one with a different hormone balance, or go off it completely. (That's what I finally had to do.)
2006-09-24 09:13:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Certain medications will affect your libido..especially antidepressants. There are natural herbs out there to enhance your libido..try different web sites for herbal remedies
2006-09-24 09:13:02 · answer #7 · answered by mystery_lvr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
taking into consideration that you had a good childhood and did not disturbed your mental status: go to GNC and buy an aphrodiciac that works for females only and try it. or go to any gas station and by products for females to increase stamina. your boyfriend does not turn u on and that is a big issue.
2006-09-24 09:56:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YEA I see one on TV all the time. It is just like Enzyte (BOB)
can't remember the name (I'm 66m ?)
but really sex is fun!
2006-09-24 10:46:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as you say it could be ur hormones but as he is your boyfriend he should respect you for who you are and the decsions you make instead of aruging about it sit down and try talking it through.
2006-09-24 09:12:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋