my relationship for three years is really failing. im so willing to end it up, since its a long distance relationship. i had no oppurunity, because i dnt know where to contact him, he's transfering from one country to another because of his work. i tried emailing him, for him to call me, but he's not replying. suddenly he reached me through ym, my boyfreind and i just broke up yesterday and found out that he already have a new girlfriend. i hate what im feeling of being so depress and hurt right now. since i was also planning to set him free, for few months ago. is what im feeling weird? what will i do, it seems that he already have a new life, and i want to be ok asap? please help, i really feel so lonely right now.
2006-09-24 08:47:19 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The deal is that you say you were ready to end the relationship but it is one thing to be ready to end it, and another to actually be ready and end it. What you kind of lost is the fact that you weren't the first one, the fact that you didn't keep "in charge" of the situation. We all want to be on top of situations, there is nothing wrong with that. But, that contributes to a feeling of depression when we realize we were not first, but second.
I would say the best thing is to go out and have fun...without looking for a new guy(guys seem to have a 6th sense when it comes to women looking for a guy). Instead, take the time to get to know yourself, enjoy your freedom, enjoy the fact that you can go out and make new friends. It sounds silly but time actually will heal and in the meantime you get to know better who you are, what your limitations are, and where you want to be in life in the future. You'll get a better relationship when you are ready for it....Good Luck
2006-09-24 08:55:34 · answer #1 · answered by MARIANNE G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not contacting you was a really big clue. Its OK to be down and hurt, but I'm sure you know in your heart it was over a long time ago. Call your girlfriends up and have a pity-me party. Get over the hangover this causes and tell yourself no man is worth more than one days misery. Then get back in there and do what ever it is that girls do where you are to socialize. Theres too many fish in the sea.
2006-09-24 08:55:02 · answer #2 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you need to just release the pinned up anger and enjoy freedom. I'm not saying anything bad about long distance relationships but its kind of hard to have a normal relationship when you really can't spend anytime together. its one thing to talk on the phone but you learn more about a person by just being around them. it comes across like you really cared about this guy but you admit yourself that the relationship was dead. don't worry about what he is doing or the fact that he has a g/f why don't you move on as well. i don't know if you've ever heard the saying "don't dislike me, get like me" but that's what you need to do. you are a free woman so act like it and get your sexy back.
2006-09-24 09:04:32 · answer #3 · answered by Quociana L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, tough situation. Just pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and move on. You are hurt and you've got reason to be. A long distance relationship is very hard, it's got to take alot of trust and alot of self-discipline, he evidentally didn't have the latter. This is a blessing to you, even though you're feeling "dumped" and crummy right now. You're better off without him. I realize that you've put alot of time into this relationship, that may be what's hurting you now, that you've spent all this time with him, you've remained faithful, and he's hurt you. Try to busy yourself with friends and family and you'll start feeling better. Hugs to you!
2006-09-24 08:52:54 · answer #4 · answered by swrong 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U were planning to let him go anyway, so let him go. If he was to come back, it probably wouldnt be the same. U cant have a happy relationship with someone who doesnt want to be in the realationship. And I know u heard the saying, if u let it go and it comes back, its true love. If not, then it wasnt love at all. Just let him go, this is a test to find out if it was true love. And do other things to get him off your mind.
2006-09-24 08:55:03 · answer #5 · answered by **aLa$iA** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well hate to use and old adage ...but....TIME WILL HEAL. Find something to occupy your free time. Spend some time with friends. Invite friends over. Have a party or make a dinner. Volunteer. But being alone and pondering over it should be done. Move on.
2006-09-24 08:51:55 · answer #6 · answered by dreaming_again2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look,it seems like the end of the world and you will have bad days and good days ,but you will really really get over it.I,ve been there and you will more than likely be there again at some stage in your life.Time heals and ,yeah, you,ll feel crap for a while,but you,ll pick yourself up and get on with your life.and you will get YOUR new life...Hope I helped..best of luck girl .
2006-09-24 09:01:09 · answer #7 · answered by wasn't me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, anytime a stage in your life end, it's sad and you have every right to be upset about it. especially since he beat you to the punch. It doesn't feel fair. Allow yourself to grieve a bit, but go on with your life!
2006-09-24 08:49:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep busy. Go out with your friends. Soon you will meet someone exciting and different and start to have a lot of fun.
2006-09-24 08:50:41 · answer #9 · answered by nobluffzone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it hurts because he did it to you first. And you were betrayed, because he already has a girlfriend. If you wouldve broke up with him first, it wouldve been easier on ya. Time will heal all. Good luck
2006-09-24 08:49:14 · answer #10 · answered by yournotalone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋