I've been married for 2 months, I'm 26 and my husband is 29 and he's a Mama's Boy..We live with his mother not that we need to..She's afraid to be alone. How can I get him to let go of those apron tails? I Need my own house. We have to be extra quiet when having sex, we have to sneak beers in to the house to drink and she's always asking where are we going and complaining about being left alone. I don't want to get a divorce or leave me husband but I really need the privacy. HELP!!
2006-09-24 08:45:59 · 18 answers · asked by MocWard 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Slowly but surely pull hubby away. He has to learn that you both deserve to have a life of your own. What you have now is an unhealthy relationship, more or a less a threesome.
I suggest you rent one of those suites at a place such as Homewood Suites. Just for week to show hubby what the peace and quiet can be like. He can call Mommy as much as he likes.
Make no doubt about it, this will be tough. Hopefully love will conquer this problem.
2006-09-24 08:56:40 · answer #1 · answered by Frogface53 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is an only child,and you have to keep her, the only thing you can do is get a house with an in-law apt that LOCKS!!
If he won't stand up to her you can. Stop hiding beer. Do whatever you want, if she says anything shrug it off.
Have fun with her. Put the toilet paper on the wrong way (you know she has a "right" way), If she puts her coffee cup down and you know shes coming back for it, wash, dry and put it away, You can find other ways, believe me it will help you keep your sanity. Just don't make it obvious to your husband that you're messing with her. It's OK if she suspects. But even then, don't let her know for sure.
2006-09-24 09:05:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put your foot down, demand to move out. But don't wait around for him, go house hunting and all that on your own.
It's hard to break a mama's boy......but you really should have thought of that BEFORE you got married.
You should not sneak around her. Do what you want, you live there. If she does not like it, that is her problem. Your both adults, she does not get the veto just because she is older.
2006-09-24 08:50:52 · answer #3 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why did you agree to move in his mama's house anyway!!! you should have put your foot down right then and there to avoid all of this thats going on now. You are a grown woman and you deserve a place of your own. Maybe yall could move close by, and visit often to help wing him away. Don't wait any longer to address the issue......living in the mama's house is enough.....good luck!!
2006-09-24 08:51:20 · answer #4 · answered by AUDREY H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you have to move for the sake of the relationship. If he doesn't, you know who's the most important to him. Better to find out 2 months into the marriage than later.
Unfortunately, my experience has been once a mama's boy, always one, but hopefully yours will be different.
2006-09-24 08:48:46 · answer #5 · answered by Stef 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Demand it! Start looking for your own house and let him kmow this is what you want. Always communicate with him don't ever keep your problems to yourself he's your husband, your rock and he should and will want to please you. But, you have to guide him too - once he's away from those "apron tails" he'll feel relief himself. Enjoy your beautiful life together. Also, if he is a man of God refer him to the bible (if needed) where it states a man will leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife as one.
2006-09-24 11:31:59 · answer #6 · answered by questionable 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has probably been controlled and manipulated my his mother all his life so he is very unlikely to change.
She is behaving very selfish but he has been trained not to see it that way and might feel guilty if he does not put her first all the time.
Very often too, these men take their mother's side against their wife so be prepared to stand your ground. You have every right to create boundaries around your marriage and you deserve to be number one in his life.
2006-09-24 08:54:28 · answer #7 · answered by livitet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a counselor. Sometimes a man won't listen to his wife but if a third party may help. His mom needs to find some friends, and get a life of her own. She is ruining her marriage, and when you have kids she will want to raise them too.
The good news is that men treat their wives like they treat their moms. He is good to her and will be good to you too.
2006-09-24 08:51:42 · answer #8 · answered by Beth M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i guess sum would say i am a mama's boy but it never interfered with my relationships mainly due i was very honest mom came number 1 and she was not the type to butt in where she wasnt suppose to be i think you need to sit down with your husband and tell him plainly you his wife you need to be out of his mom's house you need to be his number 1 concern if he not ready to do that then he dont wanna be your husband seems harsh but he can only respect your honesty as a woman
2006-09-25 01:24:43 · answer #9 · answered by OFFICER CAMPBELL 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to pull the Bible out and read him the part about "for this cause should a man leave his mother and father and CLEAVE until his wife".
2006-09-24 09:00:30 · answer #10 · answered by Faith In The House 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋