Ok, here it is...
A good close male friend of mine is becoming a lot more "close" to me, its quite obvious to me that he wants more than just friendship as do i....but there's a major problem that comes in the way (something that means there is 0 chance of us ever being together) - i didnt want to mention this but im going to get an arranged marriage you see, but he wont.
We both know there is no chance, yet for some reason slowly our friendship keeps progressing...
Now i know that I can prevent anything from happening, i can even stop myself getting emotionally attached to him, but im not too sure about him
He knows the consequences but he still seems to take things further, as if he cant stop himself - like talking and texting a lot more, getting involved in my life - getting attached! He is willing to take that risk - what shall i do? I can tell that he really doesnt want to ruin my future but he cant resist.
I dont want to lose him as a friend, i really dont!
2006-09-24 08:43:23 · 5 answers · asked by Miss Terious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sing him this lovely poem...
Whenever you need me I'll be there.
I want you to know that I truly care.
When life knocks you down on your knees,
I'll be at your side just as fast as you please.
A shoulder to cry on when times are rough,
An encouraging word when you don't feel good enough.
An ear to listen to your hopes and your dreams,
A voice of moderation when you've gone to extremes.
Someone to share the good and the bad,
I will be the best friend you ever had!
Happy friendshpi!
2006-09-26 14:53:56 · answer #1 · answered by Ω Nookey™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your male friend is that close to you than you shouldn't be more than just friends. If things don't work out later than it would be harder because you guys will not be as close as you were at one point. If he is true he will understand. Now about the arrange marriage, you should be able to tell your parents that you don't want to get married to just anyone. Let them know that you want to fall in love before you get married. I cannot imagine being married to a total stranger.
2006-09-25 02:55:14 · answer #2 · answered by smartie2828 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, Ms. Terious, I myself, was almost in a dillemma as you were once, but I was a guy. This is modern life, see? You should just tell your parents to respect your decision to not get an arranged marriage, what can they do? Your theyre daughter.Your their blood. They're just going to accept the fact that you just don't want to. Also, I would suggest talking to the person your "arranged" to marry, I beleive he might have the same feelings
2006-09-24 15:55:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIVE IT A TRY!
Ok its clear from your description that you guys get along well. And what's more, you have a solid base of friendship to build a relationship on!
But it all boils down to whether you feel the same or not. If you dont want to take this further than friendship then just sit down have a talk girl! You know, he knows, you that he knows and he knows that you know! So just invite him over, get a cup of coffee and talk it out!
Good luck to you!
2006-09-25 11:55:52 · answer #4 · answered by freshlimesoda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should be friends with him only... dont think of him in any other way except for a friend , if u have arrange marriage in your mind ........ because if u get very close to him then a time will come when both of ya'll will get completely attached to each other and wont keep each other of yourr mind..... becareful... cuz tht would affect your marriage later on.. speak to him and explain him.,.. u will also have to stop from your side which will automatically make him control his feelings
good luck and GOD BLESS =)
2006-09-24 20:17:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋