shes known her new mate for 8 moinths and has just moved in with the guy
2006-09-24 08:32:54 · 10 answers · asked by stanyamada 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
EX? why on earth would you care?
2006-09-24 08:36:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - it will not last. Statistics show that people who have affairs and then leave the spouse to be with the lover, do not end up with the lover long term. In fact the percentage who do is so small (less than 10%) that the marriage actually has a greater chance of success. Also, the first marriage is usually a person's best chance at being married:1> first marriages fail at 50%; 2> second marriages fail at 60%;3> third marriages fail at 70%; and 4> fourth marriages fail at 80%. Do you see the pattern here?
I am not an expert, but I would imagine the scenario where a woman might stay with someone else other than the husband would be if the husband were emotionally or physically abusive or had created such a bad environment for the wife that her affair would actually be better than the marriage on a day-to-day basis. But excluding that scenario, if the woman left her husband to be with another man, she is probably not a good woman anyway so let her go. We men tend to let our egos get into the way of things but what advice would you give a buddy if he told you his wife were sleeping with another man? Exactly - so you are probably better off without her anyway. Take a break to recover - at least 6-9 month - during which time you will move on but be respectful and cordial toward her when you have to deal with her, and then after the recovery period is over, find yourself a good woman. A good woman is a 7 (on a scale of 1-10), she is honest, loyal, trustworthy, flexible and giving. She is sweet and wants to take care of you. And she is compatible with you in most ways. If she is higher than a 7, that is OK too but just remember that beautiful women require more maintenance because they have all those horny men out there trying to hit on her. So unless you want to compete with that (I had a 10 and trust me it aint worth it), stick with a 7-8. Good luck.
2006-09-24 16:39:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope.
If she entered a relationship right after a breakup then there is obviously some emotional strain somewhere inside of her.
It may be working for her now, using him to forget you and move on but eventually she will realize she never fully recovered from your relationship with her because she didn't give her heart enough time to heal from the previous relationship.
Another relationship should not be a substitute to moving on.
2006-09-24 15:35:50 · answer #3 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldnt it last? Eight months is a good amount of time to get to know someone, it's not like she's marrying him. But, why do you care what your ex does?
2006-09-24 15:56:22 · answer #4 · answered by dionne m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her new relationship has nothing to do with you. If he's a good guy and treats her right.....sure it can last forever.
2006-09-24 15:34:29 · answer #5 · answered by tjjone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rebound girls can end up being good wives. I picked my fiancee up from a bad relationship and he adores me for who I am. If she treats him right there's no saying what will come of it all.
2006-09-24 15:36:41 · answer #6 · answered by cyber_music 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not over her. Can tell from your question.
You need to take the steps to get over her.
If you WERE over her, you wouldn't care.
2006-09-24 15:52:05 · answer #7 · answered by Peachy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure. If she's the right one it could last forever.
2006-09-24 15:35:30 · answer #8 · answered by dea_7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is hard to say but what does it matter you dwelling on it is causing you more pain and anguish move on.
2006-09-24 15:36:52 · answer #9 · answered by DaNUT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you bother to ask this question?
Weather you left him or he left you, it shouldn't
bother you!
2006-09-24 15:42:05 · answer #10 · answered by GentleCraig 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋