I lost my best friend after I fell in love with him. I was ready for a relationship and he wasn't. My jealousy pushed him away, and I said a lot of hurtful things. I didn't mean them. I just said it because I was hurt. After my harsh words, he told me to leave him alone. I didn't mean it, and I want my friend back. By him telling me to leave him alone, is it wrong for me to apologize and want him back. It happened Thursday, is it too soon to try to get him back, or have I waited to late already? Help!! I need as much advice as possible. It's killing me not having him around.
2006-09-24 08:15:14 · 8 answers · asked by DaBossLady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
its never too late, especially between frnds.
u must call him as soon as possible and ask him to meet u, tell him that u need to talk to him, its urgent and cant wait.
when he comes, u must apologize say ur sorry and u didnt mean to do what u did,explain everythg, tel him that nobody can control his feelings and nobody can play with them or change them either.
tell him that ur love made u crasy and jealous, and u werent thinkin.
in the end tell him that it his decision, and whatever it was, it ll be ok with u.
if hes a true frnd he ll understand ur way of acting and he ll forgive u, but u must know that he might ask to be apart 4 a while cos he might feel presure around u and he ll be afraid of actin in the same way he was actin b4.
and dont expect thngs 2 be like the past b4 a while, thngs might b wired till he udjust with the truth, dont be too pushy give him his space to realise what happened and whats happening, wait 4 him.
if u feel dat u cant be a best frnd and u hav to be his gf(dont tell him that): apologize,ask him what u should do(both), c what hell answer, if he want u to just stay frnds, in this case try to not c him all de time try 2 stay far so u wont get hurt and u wont hurt him .
P.S: think b4 u act, i lost my bf cos of my jealousy (over jel..), he was de love of my life, anyway we moved on, he still the special person in my life, but i regret beeing like i was and actin like i did. always think b4 u act.
2006-09-24 08:37:49 · answer #1 · answered by mimo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, from the way it sounds you had a good friendship. Maybe try to slow it down. Ask him for forgiveness and tell him that your fine being just friends. Don't push him or you will never be friends with him. Act friendly just ignore the fact that you like him until he is ready. Never push a friend, but the sooner you apologize, the more easy it will be to do it cause the anger will grow over time. Trust me, i'd know. My best friend is like this but we still haven't ditched her. If she would say that she is sorry then i would forgive and forget, but she hasn't yet and i'm sorry about that, but make the first step. He may be angry at you but the anger will just build over time. DO IT SOON!
2006-09-24 11:37:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give him some space to think this over...you had no rights giving him a hard time like that...what he does is not your business....you may have lost him as a friend for good...if you are lucky he may give you another chance, but interfering with his life is a no no...leave him to decide what he wants to do....you cannot make someone love you..and you cannot force them into a relationship just because YOU have feelings for him, he has to feel the same way....if he said leave him alone...then respect his wishes and leave him alone...he will contact you when he's ready
2006-09-24 08:26:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all---if you did not mean it why did you say it? It's all about making choices in life and you chose to leash out at him for whatever. I can only tell you this much: it is probably futile to wait around for him, but for the next relationship try a different approach...Good Luck
2006-09-24 08:20:40 · answer #4 · answered by MARIANNE G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im srry u lost ur best friend. See if he can maybe come over, cause u need to apoligize right infront of his face. So hye can no that u really mean it ok?And also maybe get him a gift? take him out , make him feel better!!
If u really like him u will do what i say. ok?i don't have many friends, but i do have one very special to me like u. hes datin someone else and im gettin really jealous.i like him cuz hes funny. srry for gettin off the topic, but try to make him feel better. then try to make him like u , but wait probably a month so he can forget about that. ok?
2006-09-24 08:21:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him how you feel NOW, don't wait . . .and that you were sorry for saying those words . . .that you didn't mean them . . . that you were just angry b/c he wasn't ready for the next step but you are and that you were willing to wait and see what happens between you two . . . you never know what he could be thinking . . SO JUST DO IT . . .
2006-09-24 08:52:06 · answer #6 · answered by techgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apologize because it is the right thing to do but don't accept him to be very willing to be friends again.
2006-09-24 08:17:54 · answer #7 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit him down and tell him how you feel, NOW. Right now.
2006-09-24 08:17:31 · answer #8 · answered by unlucky4utwo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋