keeps disrespecting in public. He will start yelling at me in front of
other people and he is very condensending and I have told
him a million times to stop doing this and I am very frustrated.
I want tho know if there are any groups online for free advice or any boards where can I get ideas. I am really tired because every time I try to talk to him about this he tells me to shut up??
I love him and I have been with him for 12 years and we are trying to have a child too. I need some advice?? I want to be happy and I want to encourage him to be be more active and able to communicate with me more. I myself have made a new career move and I am going back to school and also planning my first child. He seems to be at the same place. I need help
2006-09-24 08:10:26 · 7 answers · asked by saffire500 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First do not have a child with this man! Do you really want him verbally, emotionally, and mentally abusing a child the way he does you? This man is abusive and you need to kiss him good bye and find a real man to love you and raise a family with.
2006-09-24 08:13:32 · answer #1 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will recommend if you want help go to a real meeting for couples not on line you and him will need one on one help.
Also you need to look for the reason that him is like that, sometimes partners do thing that they cant see and make us get upset and we react in different way.
About a child you have to think about because maybe he be the same way with the child don`t bring a child into an unhappy home work on that matter first.
If counseling don't work believe me most of the times after 12 years on a relation is very hard to change someone else habits, sometimes is better get out of the relation and in time start a new one with someone else that respect you and appreciated you...But remember that sometimes we have to earn the respect, if you see something that you don't like you have to stop it in the act, if you let it pass maybe you will have to hold it for life.
Longer you wait harder will be to break the relation on your own you might need help, you can get advise in abuse woman programs every city have one just give them a call for advise you will not need to give your information you can be anonymous.
Remember time go by and leave the marks,you are getting older.
Good luck wish you well.
2006-09-24 08:37:20 · answer #2 · answered by Soyam I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rather then trying to have a child in the middle of this crisis; you should be working on solving your marriage problems.
Right now is not the time to bring a child into the two of your lives. You two are not ready for a child if you cannot even get along.
He needs to learn respect and if he won't listen to what you have to say then you need to be serious with him and inform him that if he doesn't listen and change his disgusting attitude towards you that you will leave him. Hopefully, that'll put some scare into him and he'll open up more about what's going on.
The two of you need to work on communication, mainly him, he has to realize communication is key to a happy marriage; without it the two of you will not be happy.
2006-09-24 08:19:19 · answer #3 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whether you love him or not apparently he is not respecting you meaning he is not on the same page as you. i hate to say this but marriage counseling is always a choice but the way he is acting for 12 freaking years...its disgusting how you can live with that crap. im not here to lash out on you but come on be a strong woman and do whats right. love is not something one person should do but two.
2006-09-24 08:14:16 · answer #4 · answered by §¤ŅG.¥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is emotionally abusing you. He is a controller and probaly will not change. You will need to make up your mind what you are willing to accept. If you stay you should get professional help. Learn what abuse is.
2006-09-24 08:16:37 · answer #5 · answered by jan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could try giving him a big dose of his own medicine... it might cure him from his inconsiderate behavior.
But first, be sure to inform him that he will be reaping what he's sown... then show him how he's behaving, by you acting like him, in public.
2006-09-24 08:21:01 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always hear similar stories... i think women should make themselves be more respected. talk to him and let him know that you're a valuable person and he cannot treat you that way. it's not a difficult issue... just talk!
2006-09-24 08:16:45 · answer #7 · answered by |||°°°HeZuO°°°||| 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋