What The F***??????help pls?

Question

ok.here's the problem.i like a guy in my new college & he know's that.but whenever i chat with him online,he seems so depressed giving answers like "it's ****,crap,sucks,bitchy,not good" etc. whenever i ask him how he is.there doesn't seem 2 be a day when he doesn't feel good.but at school he can hide it very well under a smile.& he had told me once that he doesn't want to be helped.apparently he's been hurt a lot esp. by his past gf's.

so,my question is how should i act with a guy like this?should i just continue being friends with him & try to help him?or tell him that i like him a.s.a.p.pls explain how i should make my moves...

thanks for all the answers!

p.s.i have known him for only a short period of time...

Answer 1

oh my god -- these are red flags, girl. that is exactly how my bf was when i first started dating him. it's kind of sad, but it was almost part of the allure for me. i thought i could "help" or "fix" him. seriously, don't pursue this. it will not get better, and only get worse. he's even telling you he doesn't want help! my situation has been emotionally draining, full of negative energy from him to me -- i would even say "emotionally abusive" -- for the past 3 1/2 years. please don't do this to yourself... find a non-miserable guy. it's just not worth it. b/c the further you get in, the more difficult it is to get yourself out. i know you like him a lot... but do yourself a favor and put your focus on someone else. i've learned the hard way.

Answer 2

do u really like him? if yes, try to take him out with one of ur friends. so she can help support u. or just ask to have a date to studie for ....? maybe even get him something to make him feel better.
but if u don't really like him. Just say u really want to be his friend, hes a great, guy, and ur the best. try to make him feel better. ok? since hesw been hurt by girls, then U need to try to make him feel better

Answer 3

He's obviously a liar. Stay away from him.