Do you think people try to raise their kids the way they wish their parents raised them?

Answer 1

I believe this is true to some extent. You always want to give your children all the things you didn't get as a child but you also want to teach them the same values in life that your parents taught you. If you had a good childhood, you probably want to do all the same things your parents did. If you had a bad childhood, you would want to do all the opposite.

Answer 2

People by nature always try to do something better, each generation tries to raise their kids on a higher par than what they think their parents did. In some instant's yeah they may think they have raised them better but in most cases they have raised just the way they were raised. Also different cultures have different attitudes to raise children like Asian give a higher regard to family upbringing than westerners who rely on babysitters and school. Also western life has influenced a lot now days cause many families have both spouses working full time leading to lack of time for family and social issues. The children in turn are raised by third parties like peers, babysitters, school, society, etc

Answer 3

I think alot of parents try to avoid the same mistakes their parents made with them. If they love their kids the way they should, they would want what is best for them.Every parents dream is to have children that don't back talk and stay out of trouble. To provide what a child needs is the best thing a parent could do besides show them how much they love and care for their children.

Answer 4

Yes! I vowed to raise my kids differently then I was raised! My mom yelled at me all the time! I try not to do that to my kids but what Kids ever listens to their parents these days?

Answer 5

I am a parent of a 3 year old. I try and raise my son the way I think he should be raised. I do SOME of the things my parents did with me, but I also try NOT to do some of the things my parents did with me. For example: my father was very strict, and when you got in trouble, you immediately got your behind spanked--HARD, I have tried other ways of disciplining my own son, say time-out, taking toys away, etc. and then if he still won't listen, then he gets his behind spanked, but I do try to avoid it. My parents both smoked around me and my brothers, I am a smoker, but I NEVER EVER will smoke in the house or anywhere around my son. My parents both cursed in front of me and my brothers, I watch myself everyday to not speak those 'bad' words around my son. Some things that my parents did, that I agree with, is teaching respect, I try to teach my son to respect everyone from me to his daycare teachers to the neighbors next door. My father was very big on letting us know how much we were loved and that he loved us very much, so I make sure daily, several times daily, to tell my son how much I love him, and I always give him kisses and hugs goodnight and tell him I love him before he goes to bed.

Answer 6

yes, i do think people TRY to raise their kids the way they wish their own parents raised them but it is harder than you think becasue there is a lot of programing and echoing of what your expereinces with your parents were onto your own kids..that is why I say we try but we aren't always successful.

Answer 7

I think that people do that in some cases, especially if they felt deprived of something during their childhood, whether it be material possessions, money, 'freedom' etc, in an attempt to 'spare' their kids of negative experiences they themselves went through. However, in some instances it does backfire since they end up doing things out of balance and creating little ungrateful monsters.

Answer 8

I think for the most part they do because it is what they know. I also think people learn from their parent's mistakes and try to prevent them in their parenting.

Answer 9

it depends on the situation, most of the time yes, they try to impose what they've learned from their parents on their children, however, sometimes if a person's childhood was abusive or negative in some way, many time parents try not to raise their children in that manner

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Answer 10

I think we learn from our parents mistakes and try to do a better job.That is what I did and my girls tell me they do the same.