i want to have a baby but the problem is that i am only 15. What should I tell my bf. Is this normal? I have had sex and it felt really good, I want to have sex again but my bf says it could make me preganant. I didn't tell him that I wanted to get pregnant but should I? Help me!!!
2006-09-24 07:56:00 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
LOL. I hope you have a few thousand in your bank (which I doubt you even have a bank account)... because babies on average cost 10,000 dollars just for the first year alone. Good luck with that one.
2006-09-24 08:01:31 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley P 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How will you handle a screaming infant all night, you not getting any sleep, then you have to get up and go to school. In the mean time you still need to change the baby's clothes, feed the baby, change it's diaper all the while you're so angry at the baby for crying for no reason. Then if it's sick how will you pay the doctor bill, or drive it to the doctor, keep buying it's food and clothes while you are too young for a job. You can't even take care of yourself yet let alone an innocent life. A real parent knows it takes until you are married before you even think about starting a family. What if there is a school dance then what are you going to do with the baby?. Your fun days are over you're a mom first now not an innocent teenager. You will ruin your life. Don't ruin an innocent child's life that didn't ask to be here.
2006-09-24 08:10:02 · answer #2 · answered by J P 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I don't believe that you are truly ready to be a mom. You might want a baby, and think it would be great, but that's not the same as being ready. Pregnancy isn't a vacation, it can be rough with morning sickness, heartburn, acne, being super tired all the time, crankyness, depression, aches and pains, and I'm sure other moms could add to that list. Then you have to go through birth, which even with pain medication isn't a cake walk. You get about 2 days in the hospital with the nurses helping you, then you are on your own. And you might gain a ton of weight you'd have trouble losing. Would your parents be willing to help you raise a baby? A lot of girls who ask questions on here have parents who kick them out. Is your boyfriend ready to be a dad? Don't try getting pregnant with someone who isn't interested in being a parent. You need to seriously think about how much responsibility you would be taking on by getting pregnant. Are you ready to get up 3 or 4 times a night with a hungry or colicky baby? Are you ready to clean up after a baby? Are you financially able to care for the baby if your parents or the father won't help? Do you intend to finish school, because a baby might make that difficult.
Do yourself a favor and use condoms since you are sexually active. There will be a time in the future when you are better ready to have a baby. Don't rush into it now. No matter how mature you feel, you are still just a teenager, enjoy that freedom!
2006-09-24 08:03:11 · answer #3 · answered by S. O. 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ARE YOU CRAZY!!!!! Do you know the responsibility of a newborn baby? That's not something that you want to have to worry about at this point in your life. Trust me it would be better to wait until your finished with school and have a stable home life for a child. And think about all that you would miss out on if you have a child now no more hanging out with friends, no more goin to the movies when you want. All that stuff will change you have to worry about money because a baby has to come first and they cost a fortune diapers, formula, baby food, wipes, clothes and they grow fast so you'll be buying new clothes all the time. And it also sounds as if your boyfriend doesn't want a baby right now. Trust me on this get on birthcontrol, use a condom, and wait until you're old enough to handle a baby. There will be plenty of time for kids later in your life right now enjoy your teenage years and do what teenagers should be doing and don't put yourself in a position where you have a baby to worry about when your still practically a child yourself. I hope this helps change your mind.
2006-09-24 16:23:08 · answer #4 · answered by dixiefrogs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really really really should stop having unprotected sex. Please. Do not have a baby. A baby will prevent you from finishing school. Think about it.
A baby will cry all night. Everynight. Everytime you want to have alone time, the baby will cry. When you are dog tired from supporting yourself and the baby, and push yourself through school, the baby will not let you sleep.
What if you have a baby with a chronic illness that needs constant care?
Having a baby will limit your dating chances. Suppose your boyfriend doesn't want to stay with you anymore. How will you go out on a date, or go to the prom, with a baby crying every 5 minutes?
Did you realize diapers are not fool proof? Poop and pee do not always stay in the diaper. From my experience, about 40% of the time, they leak. And if you are supporting yourself, you cannot afford the expensive brand.
Formula is very expensive, are you going to have time pumping your breasts for your baby?
If you need anymore reasons not to have a baby, let me know.
2006-09-24 08:01:45 · answer #5 · answered by Hicktown girl66 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby is nothing easy but its up to u. If u want to have one think that ur to young and you might not be with the man u really love. But im pretty sure that if u tell him he would probably say that its to soon, dont do anything behind hes back because if u do get preg and he wasnt ok with it he might run away from the preg and then its going to be up to u and its hard being a single mom.Go to school and graduate u need a education u would have a chance to become a mom someday. Dont have to rush ok! good Luck and god Bless.
2006-09-24 08:01:01 · answer #6 · answered by shorty Peraza 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was pregnant at 15. Not to mention it wasnt a very smart decision. I hope you will reconcider.or ask your mother for birth control.
It is not easy, I can tell you I could not afford all of the things I would have liked for my child, staying in school was difficult, and I had no support. How about transportation.
Seems to me, like I once faced. I wanted to fill a void. I missed on great things, prom, college, partying, travel, all the things you SHOULD EXPERIENCE. Maybe things dont seem to be going right for you right now, but trust me they will.
I wasnt the most popular girl in highschool, and once I got out, things changed. BIg time. I wasnt the prettiest, now I cant even go to the grocery store without guys hitting on me. I wasnt the smartest, now I am amazingly smart.
All I can say is please wait and focas on yourself.
the best is yet to come.
2006-09-24 08:25:15 · answer #7 · answered by Make u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should seek counseling. obviously there is something missing in your life and you want a baby to fill the void. at 15 you will most likely end up in the system. which means you will have someone else telling you what and how to raise your child or it will get taken away. i work with pregnant and parenting teens and its very hard for them. having a baby will not keep a man. remember that. you will lose your childhood because once you have a baby your decisions will effect another person, your child. tell your parents that you want to see ba counselor, talk to your school counselor or go to planned parenthood and tell them what you are thinking.
2006-09-24 09:11:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to grow up before having a baby! It's harder then you might think. Have you ever thought your bf may not want a baby right now. At 15 you have no way of taking care of a baby.
2006-09-24 08:03:30 · answer #9 · answered by jackie b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please stop and use your head. You are not only talking about creating a baby. You are talking about creating a person. Someone whom you'll be responsible for for the next eighteen years of your life!!!!
If you want something to nurture that will also love you back, go get a dog. If you have alot of money (Which you will need for a child) Go get a monkey or something.
You are only fifteen years old!!!!!
A decision like this will affect you for the rest of your life.
Enjoy the sex, but don't make babies yet!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-24 08:01:37 · answer #10 · answered by jessep 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should go ahead and tell your boyfriend what you want. And you should tell your parents. Better to find out now how they feel than to watch them despair because their child's life is over. How would you like it if someone tricked you into having a baby with them? Forever you would have to live with that, and you would always have to live with the fact that you had disapointed your parents in that way. Not to mention what you would do to that child. You wouldn't be raising it, your parents would. Can they afford that? Do they want a newborn in their home? How unfair to that child.
2006-09-24 08:19:09 · answer #11 · answered by Rose C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋