Your beloved awaited for you for 18 years.
But when you got in touch with her after 18 years she just insulted you beyond imagination.
She has also become somewhat sick you know.
And now she has other 2 men in her life who are
sort of say .. crooks.
Would you now tell her that you are the same person OR
Will you just pretend that you are someone else and cut
the communications so that mostly she will never know.
OR
Do you suggest doing something else ?
2006-09-24 07:08:32 · 14 answers · asked by An Atheist 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
doesn't really sound like she waited for ya....
2006-09-24 07:10:29 · answer #1 · answered by joilong 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something you have to decide for yourself. If she is not the same person she was, then is she still your "beloved"? Are YOU the same person you were 18 years ago? What you do needs to be based on your feelings NOW, not what your feeling were 18 years ago. If you no longer are in love with her, be honest and just tell her. Communication is very important. Also, if she insulted you, can she possibly care for you that much? If it was me, I would move on and find someone who cared for my feelings.
2006-09-24 07:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by susan w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is my answer for the situation you describe above!
Not directed at you personally - unless that is your true story!
She did not wait for you for 18 years.
What makes you so special, that you
think that any woman would wait 18 years
for you to show up?
You heard her, she insulted you.
Go one with your life and don't let
any one wait for you again.
Either you are there for that special person
or you are not.
And why do you judge her men - you have no right!
At one time she may have chosen you - long, long
time ago - but you wimped out. For what ever reason.
Shall we call you a wimp or worse?
2006-09-24 07:39:34 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her u are the same person, give her a chance and get toknow what she thinks about you!
Even if u wanna let go, u should first know exactly how the person in question feels, or anytime in the future, if u will realise otherwise u will feel regretful for not giving a relationship a chance!
2006-09-24 07:18:56 · answer #4 · answered by krishna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The situation you give me sounds logical, if elephants have wings that is.
Anyway, if I'm in that situation, first thing I do is slap her and said, "You've waited for me for 18 years and the first thing you do is insult me? Cut the crap and hug me now. You know you want to."
If she keeps on insulting, I'll just pretend she's a stray dog and leave.
2006-09-24 07:16:05 · answer #5 · answered by septiant 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither, I'd consider it a lesson learned & go on with my life & let her go on with hers. She probably isn't ready to go backwards & you definately aren't the same as you were 18 years ago & you need to face that reality first or you'll have trouble moving on with your life & risk becoming the next "victim" of the lady & the cons!
2006-09-24 07:15:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first statement says your beloved waited for 18 years. Later on you say she has two male friends. How can we believe both of these statements are true since they are contradictory.
2006-09-24 07:42:45 · answer #7 · answered by chris B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be bold and straight forward and dont take this insult in negative way ,keep urself control and donot let ur emotion outta control ,tell her tht ur the one whom she is waiting for and c the result she will show some respect and care for ur gentleman beahviour.
2006-09-24 07:27:49 · answer #8 · answered by Mac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of this question doesn't make sense.
What I do understand is that if she has 2 other men in her life, she didn't wait for you.
BTW- 18yrs? Who did you kill?? That's a lot of jail time.
2006-09-24 07:18:29 · answer #9 · answered by Duncarin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is always best. Don't pretend to be something or somebody you're not! Tell her you're sorry for being away so long and tell her how you truly feel about her. If she doesn't welcome you with open arms then, maybe it's time to move on without her. Good luck to you!
PS Please find GOD and trust in the wisdom of his PLAN!
2006-09-24 07:14:25 · answer #10 · answered by Judelite 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
tell that you are the same person
dont fool yourself
its no longer between you and her
its between you and your self, so be tru to yourself
what a foolish thing to fool your self.
i hope this helps
2006-09-24 07:12:36 · answer #11 · answered by hitlerlang 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋