hi me and my boyfriend of 7 years,keep aguring and im really depresses..the thing is i love him so much?

Question

i wish i didnt love him..because it would b much much easier..he hurt me so much .with the things he says..,.what i really want 2 know is "IS IT WORTH FIGHTIND 2 SAVE THE RELATOINSHIP...I LOVE HIM WITH ALL MY HEART...BUT U CANT LIVE ON LOVE ALONE

Answer 1

hey a word of advice dont end up like me. we always argue in fact we have just had one cos im on yahoo and he doenst like it...
22 years and we are still arguing........if thats what you want,,,carry on;;

Answer 2

From experience I can tell you that you have already taken the first step, even if you haven't admitted it too yourself you have made your decision, love isn't about hurt. Love isn't supposed to hurt, and it isn't so much that you love it more of what you have come to expect. You have been together so long. Liken it to an investment over period of time it grows and gains but sometimes it also loses, you have to be the one now to decide whether to stick with it until you stock hit the bottom or if you sell. the thing is no matter what someone will get hurt maybe both, but in the long run you will heal and you will be in a situation to best judge what is right and wrong for you, also you Will be also better equipped to recognise tell signs and run. My advice don't stay too long situation like these then to eat away at a person, and if you let it eat away too long the damage won't be worth the wait.

Answer 3

It sounds to me like he might have some personal issues he needs to resolve. It may just be some anger management type of issue or something in his past that makes him react to you in the way that he does. Also you say your depressed - is that because of the arguing or are you a bit down anyway?

So many outside factors can affect the way we relate to our partners and sometimes all these others things need to be put to one side for us to realise what we actually have. If you love him as much as you say you do, then it is probably worth trying to rescue and repair things but it will only work if he is prepared to try as well. After 7 years, you should be able to talk openly enough to each other for you to find out exactly how he feels. If he says he feels the same as you and doesn't understand why he hurts you, then there is definitely hope.

I wish you all the luck in the world. It will be hard work but ultimately worth it! x

Answer 4

To begin with: what are you arguing about? You need to look at what brings about an argument to determine if it is worth it. When 2 people care about each other that does not mean that they will be able to make it, it takes good communication.
Ask your boyfriend how he feels about you. Don't interrupt him, let him talk, if you don't understand what he means, repeat what he said as a question back to him. Then, when he is finished, tell him how you feel about him and why, and how he hurts you---all this under the assumption that he does not physically abuse you. If he does physically abuse you then you need to end the relationship before things escalate to a worse level.
When you guys talk avoid interrupting and avoid screaming or yelling. Most of the time an argument erupts because one of the two people cannot have their way and that's a power issue which is unnecessary. Love does not seek to hurt, and love is also able to accept how the other person is. Good Luck

Answer 5

Why do you want to save a relationship that is so painful ? How can you continue to love someone who hurts you like this? Love doesn't hurt so what you're getting from him isn't love. It will hurt you much less and not nearly as long if you walk away from him NOW . If a relationship doesn't feel gentle, safe, honest, and fulfilling, there's something vastly wrong and getting out is the honest, safe way to go. You are worth more than you're getting with this guy so go out there and find someone who will realize that you're worth treating like the good person you are.

Answer 6

If you love him and you think his worth it then the relationship is worth fighting for, try to find out why you keep arguing and try to sort it out. Nothings ever plain sailing you have to take the rough with the smooth!
Do you spend a lot of time together, if so that could be why you are arguing a lot... as you're just probably getting on each others nerves and arguing about everything and anything.
Hope you sort everything out.

Answer 7

kinda have the same problem to me and my bf argue loads and sometimes i wish i didn't love him to because it would be easier just like you,but then i calm down and i couldn't imagine life without him,sometimes i think that if Am having these thoughts hes not the right one and i should dump him before it gets to much,but then the happy times seem to overall them thoughts and i just think good things,if it really is that bad then maybe u should have a break then see how things are throughout the break and if u cant stop thinking about him and still love just as much then just think how you life might be without him just have a break and see what yr heart tells you...good luck

Answer 8

I guess it depends on how you think he feels about you?
Just because you love someone doesn't mean its automatically worth it.....my parents thought they loved each other and tried to hold on to things, but they both know now that was just a waste of time.
Your life is precious and come the end undoubtedly too short.
Sometimes it can be worth fighting for...but that can only work if BOTH of you are fighting for the same cause.
Good luck

Answer 9

ask him how serious he takes u...if this is the way itll always be then u should think about how far u can take this... yeah u love him or maybe u r used to him because uve been together for that long. u must talk to him and then ull make it clear that u cant be like this all the time...if he walks away then he was just waiting for an excuse to end it and to blame u that u guys separated... but if he says he'll try to change... then dont expect much cuz ppl dont change! its ur life and ur decision...this is how it is always going to be...u better off... (just an opinion)

Answer 10

maybe it is time to end the relationship!. Why are you trying to make something out of nothing?. Just remember this you will always be somebodys good thing. Prov.18:22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing. Its time for some of you women to wake up to this fact!

Answer 11

how many years has the relationship been this messed up? how many bad years have you had compared to good years? basically if you aren't happy and he isn't trying to make you happy what kind of relationship do you really have? that doesn't sound like a loving one to me. try to talk without arguing, if he can't do that then i'd get out asap. you are just hurting yourself.