Okay My patrents are fighting a lot.. I know that they will get a divorce really soon..... I hate having them fight and can't take it. you can hear them fight through out the house. I need a way that can help me live through this and I know it will be over soon but I just can't stand it and I need a way to escape... What should I do? Help Me PLZ..
PLUS I don't wana say my age........ But I am sort of young and am not old enogh to move out of the house.
2006-09-24 06:27:57 · 12 answers · asked by alexis21895 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Headphones and cd or mp3 player , works everytime
2006-09-24 06:31:00 · answer #1 · answered by DEADGONE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your situation sweets but it will get better even if its rough right now.
Best thing you could probably do is like someone said grab the headphones and dive into some music. Or get out of the house to someplace close where you can't hear it anymore even if its just in the backyard.
Ever thought of playing sports or do you already? That would keep you out of the house more or maybe something like dancing class / music lessons.
They may fight but it won't last forever even if it results in them not being together anymore. You are not the cause and it sucks you have to even hear about it but do what you can to just get by.
Good luck in finding the escape that works for you.. .. I took up guitar lessons and it did well for me.
2006-09-24 06:41:06 · answer #2 · answered by se7en 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to get them both, tell them you need to tell them something, set them down and tell them to listen. Do this when they are calm, if ever.Tell them that their incessant fighting is taking a major toll on you and they should be more considerate of your emotions and feelings. Ask them to take it somewhere else or just to end it for your sake. Tell them that you have reached the point where their staying together and constant fighting is harming you, not helping and you wish they would solve it soon. If they try to interrupt, tell them this is your time and they can wait to respond. Do not let them avoid the issue or or argue with you. Tell them that you want them to hear this and get it out. Hopefully it will shock some sense into them. Don't try to solve their problems or get in the middle. Just let them know that they are hurting you.
It is sad that you need to take the adult position here but you know some one has to be the adult here.
2006-09-24 07:23:07 · answer #3 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like it was already said....NON of this is your fault remember that. I don't know why parents don't see what this does to there kids. Do you have any close friends that you could talk to or go over to there place and hang out when things get to heated at home? You could try talking to your mom when you are alone with her say maybe when you are driving somewhere with her. Tell her how much this fighting is driving you crazy and you just cant take much more of it. Good luck and hang in there....it will get better really *S*
2006-09-24 06:41:20 · answer #4 · answered by oldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell your parents how you feel about their fighting and I am sorry you have to witness them that way. If they are constantly fighting, why not ask an adult family member/ friend to talk to them or let you stay with them? I had to temporarily stay with one of my family members to cool things at home. Once my mother seen that I didn't want to be around the house, quickly she made changes so I would stay. Also, ask your parents could all of you go to family counseling to resolve the issues in the household. God bless, take care and Good luck. I will be praying for things to turn in your favor.
2006-09-24 06:35:31 · answer #5 · answered by sam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just hang out with friends, go to the library, or - as some else said - listen to headphones. It will be over soon. When my parents finally got divorced, it was the best thing that could have happened. Everyone was happier. My parents are actually friends now.
2006-09-24 06:35:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the way you feel. You want to tell them to stop, and every time you hear them shouting or arguing you want to run away. I am afraid there is nothing you can do but pray. And although it may feel as though they will get divorced, they might not. Talk to them... ask them why they differ so much. And ask them not to do it when you are in the house or in hearing distance.. It's all you can do.
2006-09-24 07:08:52 · answer #7 · answered by Ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun the first thing i'de do if its truly hurting you which im sure it is, is when you catch them apart Please just ask them to listen while you let them know how much this is hurting you, although it may not stop the fighting, it may lead them to at Least doing it while your not around, and i'm sorry to hear they're gonna split i came from the same thing when i was young, but i found out somthing later on that gave ,e some comfort, although they fought all the time, i had little to know dought they both really LOVED ME. it's not easy hun going thru this, but just keep your head up high, it will get better! good luck hun
2006-09-24 06:33:51 · answer #8 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are Safe Places around that are set up for people having difficulties at home. If you can get to a fire station go there and tell them the situation and they can contact local government agencies that can offer assistance. Or, if you see a policman you can do the same. Good luck.
2006-09-24 06:38:17 · answer #9 · answered by d b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I am so sorry to hear that you have to go through this. Bless your heart. I know it is very hard on you. I think that the best way to handle this is to know that you are NOT the cause of this, and that maybe you could just go to your room and watch T.V. or go outside and just find peace, maybe you could go to a friends house, or do you have grandparents? Just try to distance yourself, and keep busy until this all comes to an end.
God Bless you
2006-09-24 06:32:22 · answer #10 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell your parents how you feel about all their fighting. or you could talk to a counselor. when my parents got divorced, i wouldn't talk to the counselor my mom made me go to, so maybe talking to someone you trust, an aunt, uncle or even a friend might be better. i'm gonna be honest, it sucks having divorced parents. mine have been divorced for 4 and a half years and it only gets harder as you get older. anyway, i have come to the conclusion that god has put me through this as a test. god wouldn't put you through this if he knew you couldn't handle it. it gets hard at times, but like my mom always says ''tomorrow can only get better'' i'm sorry to say, but you're gonna just have to face it, your parents are getting divorced. sorry about your parents, and trust me, you'll survive just fine.
2006-09-24 07:09:16 · answer #11 · answered by ceciliaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋