I used his name previously and edited that question out. This ******* 40 year old loser has relapsed since she has met him because he claims "he was upset". I don't want my children around this guy even though she has moved on. Is there anything I can do to prevent this asshole from being around our kids. She cosigned for a new car for him 3 months after she claims she had met met him. 3 months later he totaled the car because he fell asleep behind the wheel. she has cosigned for him another car and is also on our auto insurance. I would also if possible would like to prevent him from driving our kids. She says it just makes him uncomfortable because it is a male ego thing. he feels he should drive them. Whats your thoughts on this situation with the kids and her newfound white trash R. MARKS from the LB CA
2006-09-24 06:16:22 · 8 answers · asked by stanyamada 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If what you say is the way it is, you should do everything you can to get your kids yourself. Don't knowingly put your kids in danger. From what you said, it sounds like a very bad situation. Good luck.
2006-09-24 06:27:18 · answer #1 · answered by Cherry 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, this isn't a good environment for the kids. If mom is tolerant of the new guys behavior, that's her choice, but in no way, shape, or form should this man be pranced around in front of the children. What happens the next time he relapses? And what if he's behind the wheel with your children in the back seat. It sounds to me like mom is making choices in the best interests of her needs, rather than the children's needs. If you can, talk to her, tell her your concerns and tell her you are not going to allow this to continue. Give her a choice, this loser or the kids. If she chooses him, go file a motion with your court system for modification of placement and have the children live with you. Pray she contests it, that way the court will have to investigate her lifestyle as well as her newfound mates' life too. I can tell you from experience, they are not going to be pleased and side with her...she's putting her children at risk for all sorts of tragedy by bringing this man into the house. Let her know what you plan to do prior to doing it...maybe she'll change her tune. Then if you don't want to change the children's living arrangements, and only want this man out, agree to let her keep the kids if he goes...but only under those circumstances. If she refuses, they are better off with you honey.
As for the vehicle insurance, you said "our" insurance. Honey, it's time to get your own policy before this man ruins your good name and runs the premiums through the roof.
And you may get some answers that will tell you to move on and let her live her life...well ignore them. These are your children, not anyone elses and it's your responsibility as their father to ensure their safety honey. You are doing the right thing to be concerned....now take a stand.
I wish you well.
2006-09-24 06:39:03 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex should have that 1st thought in her that her bf should not drink and drive with the kids and without the kids in the car. Drinking and driving don't mix. Been there, done that with my ex. One time he was had been drinking while on a visit with our kids. Now you did not say if YOU visit them or they live with her! I'm asuming they live with her, if anything happens with the bf and he is drinking around the kids and Mom is not around, go to the court house and file a motion. Good Luck!
2006-09-24 06:38:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. so which you haven't any longer long previous over, knocked on the door, presented your self and met ex? have you ever on no account met his babies? After 10 years you don't be responsive to his babies? Or is it purely the ex-spouse? If that is purely the ex-spouse, that is confusing to appreciate why this wasn't solved interior the week of her arrival. by making use of your boyfriend. i'm shocked that he did no longer invite you over for dinner with the relatives purely approximately at contemporary. in case you have on no account met his young ones.... what's been occurring for 10 years? Has this been a decade- long secret affair? he's enjoying abode together with his relatives. For 4+months. It does no longer propose that he's napping together with his ex whether it curiously ability that he hasn't secure you. Is he seeing you at your place as once you are the different female? i'm puzzled. have you ever refused invites to pass to his abode and meet his relatives? Yeah. i'm puzzled. properly. i'm sorry. outdoors of his attempting to make everybody chuffed and not disenchanted all of us... has he clarified what he needs? would desire to he pass in with you for a pair of months? provide her a time cut back for fixing her housing subjects?
2016-10-01 07:48:35 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to trust you wifes judgement until she shows you she has none,,you can argue all you like about this man but all concerned will assume it because of jealousy and then anything you do say wont be respected,,make an ally of your ex,,show you respect her but feel bad about him driving if he can fall asleep behind the wheel,,,,she cant argue that fact but her reply will largely be based on your approach,,to coin a phrase,,friends close,,enemies closer,,if you ever want to find out what is happening you need to get rid of this anger,,,when you talk to her,actually talk to her,,show her you think she is a good mother and make it about her judgement,,that you would never think she would put the children in danger,,she will have to consider this when choosing whether or not to let them ride with him,,,give respect,get respect,you dont have to mean it,,but lets be honest,,if you place yourself on the outside you will forever be looking in,,get on the inside and play frriends,,they wont be kids forever,dont lose them now.
2006-09-24 06:27:31 · answer #5 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a custody lawyer and go to court. be prepared to fight to the death. They're your kids too you have as much right to them as a woman who would expose them to life with a relapsed alkie.
If you can document what you have told us it seems like pretty solid.
How the hell is this loser on your auto insurance.
2006-09-24 07:00:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your kids OUT of that situation, it is not a good environment.
2006-09-24 06:28:54 · answer #7 · answered by Debbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-09-24 06:20:04 · answer #8 · answered by love 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋