Do you and your spouse go out and spend the day together on your days off from work and/or the weekends? (preferablly couples without kids)
I'm asking because I'm trying to convince my husband that most people go out and enjoy the day when they have it off from work. No negative responses or "wow, your marriage must not be working" as that's not the case. Just trying to get a little insight.
2006-09-24 06:13:11 · 13 answers · asked by H.L.A. 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
my fiance and i go somewhere every weekend. either to the movies, out to eat, shopping or we just ride around. no matter what you do together is quality time. you need time out together sometimes. you need that to get away from the everyday stuff that stresses you out. it's only normal. you need time out to keep from going crazy because you do the same stuff everyday.
2006-09-24 06:25:00 · answer #1 · answered by lem 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wont say your marriage is not working because I know you two probably get along great although you are two different people who probably enjoy different things. However, staying home and watching TV or having that "incredible" sex time after time does get very boring and it can even make you want to scream. If he refuses to go out and do fun things with you as a couple, I suggest that you do them on your own. You can have a "me" day when you do fun things by yourself. Or you can have "family" days with your kids. Go fun places by yourself, with a friend, or take the children and go out with other family members/friends and their children too. You can not bully your husband and force him to go or hypnotize him and manipulate him into going. Plus, if you aren't one of those women who will use tears and sex as a weapon to get what you want, what else can you do?. I just want you to know that even though he is your husband and you love him very much, if he isn't willing to be part of your couple's day, your whole world and happiness does not have to revolve around him. Some people who are married or in long-term serious relationships forget that they are individuals too and they forget the benefits of time and space away from the significant other. You can have a good time by yourself or with friends and family.
2006-09-24 06:30:29 · answer #2 · answered by Christa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even though we have a child we still go out on our days off together. One day we have a babysitter and go out together and the other we take our child and spend the day as a family. Sometimes its good to stay in the house and enjoy each others company with board games or a movie though.
2006-09-24 06:25:15 · answer #3 · answered by Chuck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually we hardly ever go out on my husbands days off. We have four kids, ages 12,10,6, 20months so that may be a big reason why we don't tend to go a lot of places. But I do have to say that we do have "outside" time. Everyone goes outside plays or works in the garden, kids playing basketball or dad throws them football and such. Sometimes we go for a walk to the park that is near by and let them play on the playground but its walking distance.
2006-09-24 06:20:23 · answer #4 · answered by Nikie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes most people do go out and do things on their days off from work. My husband and i go out very little because on his days off from work he has to get his kids. If we didn't have to get the kids every time he was off then yes we'd be out doing something (driving around, movies, dinner, parks, camping, fishing). Tell your husband that he needs to start taking you out and doing things with you so you both can get out of the house for the day. Good luck!
2006-09-24 06:33:51 · answer #5 · answered by BadAssGirlINWV 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, we believe it's most important to do things together as a family. We have so little time together as it is, we stay in and have our special time together. Going out all the time means lack of intimacy. We prefer each other.
2006-09-24 06:49:59 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, sorry. We dont really go anywhere...every once in a while we will go somewhere, but beyond that, nope. He works 12 hour night shift at his job so he sleeps all day. On his days off he likes to sit at home and watch tv. Thats pretty much it. *sigh* sorry I couldnt help ya anymore than that.
2006-09-24 06:22:26 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not as often as we used to when we first met, but we do make time to be together. we usually we plan weekend away every 3-4 months. we get someone to watch the kids (usually grandma) and get a room (in our city) and just have a long "date". it helps keep the relationship alive.
2006-09-24 06:21:47 · answer #8 · answered by fungirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We aren't married yet but we do live together. My fiance only gets Sundays, and sometimes half of Saturdays, off work right now. We just moved so there is a lot for him to do around home so we don't get the chance to go out and do things together on his days off, yet. Once we are settled in, tho, we will definitely go out and do things together on his days off, as we normally do when there isn't a lot to do around home. We don't go out every time he has a day off as we don't have that kind of money, but we do go a couple times a month, at least. We are now living close to most of his friends so we are able to go and see them more often. And we live closer to his mom so we can go and see her at least once a month. And we found out that his brother lives close to us so we can see him more often. We don't always go to see people on our days off, tho. Sometimes we just go and do things together (eat out, garage/yard sales, shopping, whatever we feel like doing).
It is normal to go out and do things as a couple on the weekends or your days off, but not every single day off. Making it a couple times a month so you can reconnect as a couple or whatever is about what is needed, and should be done. You guys do need to have time to do things around the house on your days off as well. And you need time to do thing separately as well. It is called balancing your priorities and your life. it takes practice, but it can be done.
2006-09-24 06:24:33 · answer #9 · answered by honey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes we try too...when we are off together then we try to go out and get things done..its not always fun but we are spending time together. we also try to set a date or movie night, something to look forward to during the busy week.
2006-09-24 06:20:18 · answer #10 · answered by Criddles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋