i have been with my boyfriend for 1 year.. we fight a lot and lately i feel like i have been taking for granted.. hes a very nice bf.. (treats me nicely, takes me out to eat daily, buys me whatever i want)..but like if he get pissed at me.. he would cuss at me..(which makes me very sad)..and whenever we fight..(I ALWAYSA HAVE TO COME BACK TO HIM)..and for our one year anniversary.. i made him this whole collage of us..it took me weeks. and he didtn do anything for me! that really upsetted me.. he sed he didnt know what to do cuz hes not like the romanitc type..well anyhoo. i just feel like he treats me like **** now..like he takes me for granted.. i know in the beginning he would NEVER treat me like this..but iono.. i dont really want to break up with him..i just want him to realize HE CANNOT TREAT ME LIKE THIS... i told him before and he didnt take it seriously. everytime i tell him i want to break up, he starts trying..but if i dont, then he is normal.
2006-09-24 06:12:13 · 4 answers · asked by girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It seems to me tht he buys u things to keep u and hisself occupied.Not to mean any disrespect...but it sounds like he doesnt kno wat he wants from you.its like he wants u when u are pushing away, but he doesnt care when ur just there.Just start doing things wrong like he does and see if he notices any change in you. is he the jealous type?(i'm just asking because his "protectiveness" can be just another way of controlling.) they are mistaken for one another constantly. and his "protective" aspect is just the very thing that can push you away.i've never been in this situation, but don't get me wrong, i kno a lot about relationships. i hope he realizes soon. I HATE/LOATHE when a woman is misunderstood or taken for granted by a "loved one". How long has this been a problem? i'm sorry tht he was in diguise the first few months.Sometimes tht can get you interested and attached b4 you kno what ur dealing with.
2006-09-24 06:28:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just got myself out of that kind of relationship. I was with a guy for almost 2 years. In the beginning he was amazing..would be so nice, caring, affectionate, rational, and would sit there and talk. Then he became angry, confrontational. and was never interested in anything that I had to say or do. It got to the point where all we did was fight and break up for about 7 months off and on. I finally got sick of the put downs, cursing, and fighting. He always had to be right and would never want to talk about anything. I broke it off 2 weeks ago. Trust me it is very hard and I think about him and things constantly. It was so bad that I am in counseling now. I miss him and want the old us back but I have to accept that it will never be that way and we will never be together again. We are both now drifting apart. If I were you I would walk away from it for a while and see if its really what you want. Start putting your foot down and have some respect for yourself. You need to figure out what you will put up with in a relationship. If you ever need to talk just email me. Good Luck.
2006-09-24 06:41:10 · answer #2 · answered by Kit Katt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your question? This situation will not get better - it will only worsen. He is treating you the way you ALLOW him to treat you (not that anyone deserves abuse, that's not what I mean). Leave him, grow a backbone and turn into a strong, independent woman - before you enter into another relationship.
2006-09-24 06:53:51 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him the cold shoulder, don't call or talk to him until he does first. I know it is hard - believe me. I am doing it now. When he does you will know that he wants to be with you and hopefully it will wake him up.
2006-09-24 06:15:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anna F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋