My wife and I brought over a young lady from Russia to help us with our two little boys. (We paid for her airfare plus she gets room, board, and spending money.) She seemed nice and responsible. However, there was one problem – she was spending too much time on the Internet. A few days ago I was checking out the computer because it was performing too slow, and I came across of her chat logs. She had some nasty things to say about our kids, such as I am f””ed by them, etc. Some time ago she told us that her old friend invited her to go with her to Hawaii for Christmas. We though that it was weird; as we all know there is no such a thing as a free ticket to Hawaii. Well, as it turned out she lied to us on that account too. She was invited to go to Hawaii with some lady she met on-line who happened to be a lesbian.
People, what should we do? I think I know what to do, but I need reassurance.
2006-09-24 06:08:56 · 15 answers · asked by Dmitri S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Send her @ss back to Russia!!!!! Fire Her!!! She doesn't need to be around your children if shes saying bad things about them. You don't need a nanny who lies and stays on the internet all the time. Get her out of your house ASAP!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-24 06:25:45 · answer #1 · answered by BadAssGirlINWV 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need more information about this person before you make any drastic decision.Of course your kids are the most important thing but don't jump to conclusions. You need to respect her private life. You need only be concerned with her behaviour in regards to your children. I would have an open conversation re:her time on the internet. Make it clear she should be on only on her downtime not when she should be taking care of your children. Her conversations may just be a little bit of venting. You need to establish what level of care she is providing your children beyond that I don't see what difference her trip makes.This young lady may just need some positive reinforcement from you her employer. You are not however her parents and are not responsible for her actions during her time off.If you found out she had a drug problem or had many other serious issues criminal record ,etc..etc..then you would have problems.You need to evaluate her actual performance not her vents on the internet unless she is admitting to doing something bad.She may show a lack of maturity however and you need to decide if this affects her care of your children.
Good Luck!
2006-09-24 13:23:41 · answer #2 · answered by Style Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most importantly you would want honesty and peace in your home. I would suggest that you seem to have some issues there that do not create that. I would either let her go or sit her down and dicuss the issues openly and honestly. In the effort to be fair I am sure that iit is very difficult to come so far from freinds and family. This could be behavior that reflects that. Perhaps I would talk first.
Best wishes and I hope all turns out well!
2006-09-24 15:15:32 · answer #3 · answered by blueblossom33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh!! I would never even think of leaving my child with someone who has contempt for them. Let her go and don't worry about the money loss, just count your blessings that the boys are okay. She really shouldn't have been playing on the computer if her job was to take care of your boys anyway. Just think of probably what the day was like for your boys when you were gone.. her on the computer and they were probably crying for food or attention! Boot her out with a big KICK!!
2006-09-24 13:15:07 · answer #4 · answered by Nikie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should fire her. if she spends so much time on the internet then she is not paying attention to your kids. what if one of them got into something that there not supposed to and got hurt? if she's on the computer she won't know what is going on and i don't even want to think about what could happen. you need to think about your children first. there well being is number one. get rid of her and find someone else, before your children get hurt! she has no right to talk about your children either. if that was me i wouldn't put up with it.
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2006-09-24 13:18:44 · answer #5 · answered by lem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should fire her because your kid may not be safe because if she spend more time on the Internet than taking care of your child your child may Get hurt if she is not looking
2006-09-24 13:13:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes - you should. She is spending too much time away from your children when you are paying her to take care of them. She has no respect for you and your children - that is obvious. Have no regrets and just do it.
2006-09-24 13:13:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anna F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at this point, the only thing you should be thinking of is the welfare of your children. it is a very sensitive issue esp. if your kids are involved. would you want your children to grow up with this kind of person?
it is okay to act that way.. its being protective of your family.
2006-09-24 13:14:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should get rid of her immediatley. God only knows what else she is capable of. I wouldnt want my kids around someone like that. Find someone new. Noone is as they seem to appear.
2006-09-24 13:14:04 · answer #9 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough one. As her empoyer, you have a right to let her go. Do you have a better excuse though? You can't tell her you know this stuff. Tell her that your wife is going to stay home or that you can't afford it.
2006-09-24 13:13:52 · answer #10 · answered by Fleur de Lis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋