My sister desperately has been trying to concieve for a while now with her husband. Unfortunately no luck.
I am now pregnanct w/my forth. I know she loves me, and I love her, but I know in her heart she'll be sad that it isnt her. How should I tell her without causing her any pain.?????
2006-09-24 06:04:02 · 12 answers · asked by Make u 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
if your sister really loves you she would not feel any thing bad . she will feel bad if you don't tell her about your pregnancy and if it is known to her afterwards by some third party.
2006-09-24 06:11:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 12⤊ 0⤋
I know that you don't want to hurt her, but I think that she's going to be upset no matter how you tell her (not at you, at the situation). Be honest. Tell her how upset you are, and that you don't want her hurt. I know that most people have an easier time concieving after thier first child, so share that with her. Ask her how much or how little she wants to be involved and know about. You don't want to rub it in her face, but you don't want to make her feel left out either. Maybe just leave the ball in her court. If she wants to know, she can ask, if she doesn't ask she probably isn't up to it that day. I'm sorry I can't offer a better solution.
2006-09-24 06:16:00 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa, That's me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her, but try to not to make it like you gloating about it. But overall don't downplay your happiness because of her situation.I would hope that she's happy for you and knows that you don't purposely get pregnant just to make her feel bad or something. I would also hope that it does not cause her any pain.
I would tell her about three months into it or before you start to show and just tell her you just discovered the information too- as if you did not already know- this way it also may seem like this child was planned because she may then think your in some type of competition with her ( just on the fact that she's trying to get preganant too- not the fact that you have kids already)
good luck and congrats
2006-09-24 06:19:50 · answer #3 · answered by shalirha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing happened to a someone I know when she got pregnant with her third. She just couldnt tell her best friend who was trying for 7 years... So she was waiting for some kind of "moment" to break the news. Well, she was lucky because her best friend called her up just a week or so later to say she was pregnant!
Sorry this isnt so helpful actually. Im just being hopeful for your sister! Give her a hug, tell her youre pregnant, that you love her - shell know what youre trying to say...
ps. Im the daughter of the one who was trying. Im 2 weeks older than my moms best friends son :)
2006-09-24 06:11:03 · answer #4 · answered by kati94 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first maybe I dunno talk to your doc at your next appointment and find out where women can go to get the fathers sperm inserted ....some women just have a hard time and God has blessed us with technology now to help it along....once you find out the info...tell your sister that you have too things to tell her...number one...you found this place that ...blah blah blah...and talk to her about doing it....its pretty harmless and then tell her you are pregnant...and tell her you want her to do this first off...cuz some ppl just have a hard time and you wanna help and second cuz you want her to be pregnant the same time you are....That way she is happy and you are happy and you all can share the experience...if that makes sense..Hope I helped..Good luck
2006-09-24 13:21:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is going to be happy for you. She isn't going to resent you for having a baby.
Just tell her...maybe over the phone so that way she won't feel forced to fake a smile if that is how you think she'll feel.
2006-09-24 06:09:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, congratulations!
Second, I would probably talk to her privately. Let her know how much you love her and would never hurt her. You wanted to let her know in advance of anyone else. Understand she is going to be happy for you, but probably sad for her.
Is it possible to have her as Godmother to this child?
2006-09-24 06:09:39 · answer #7 · answered by pouncermom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By telling her straight out and not mentioning the problems she has been having. The worst thing you can do is try to hide it.
2006-09-24 06:12:37 · answer #8 · answered by thisisuandme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations!
Do it soon! And tell her in private... tell her that you don't want to cause her any pain. But do it soon, otherwise she will think you left her out!
2006-09-24 06:12:20 · answer #9 · answered by Sonja B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go tell her that u are and tell her that one day she will have good luck and everything will be good..She will b happy for u i am sure..
GOOD LUCK WITH EVERYTHING..
2006-09-24 06:15:16 · answer #10 · answered by lilmissthang025 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋