why fall in love with someone who doesn't feel the same?

Question

this puzzles me big time

how can you feel such a genuine emotion for someone who doesn't feel the same about you; it's almost humiliating if you think about it

can someone explain this but very thoroughly

thanks

Answer 1

if you love a person sincerely, that person will also begin loving you. another thing is we should not love a person with a presumption that that person will also love us. it is his/her prerogative to love you or to dislike you.sincere love does not expect returns. mother loves her children not with a thought in her mind that the children will reciprocate it. read Erich Fromm's the art of loving.

Answer 2

I agree that if the person does not feel anything for you then it is merely an infatuation. However, if you are close to that person as a friend and get to know them very well then of course you can fall in love with them. Knowing who they are and so many personal details can make you appreciate them. It isn't a requirement for someone to be in love with you just so you can fall in love with them. If things worked that way there wouldn't be any broken hearts. I guess all I'm saying is that you are capable of falling for someone that doesn't fall back. It's not ideal but that is what makes it so special when you do fall for a person and the feeling is actually mutual.

Answer 3

Give that infatuation guy ( sorry,lady) a cigar (well, maybe a lollypop). I was told that "love" has more definitions than we can count; of course it does. love is a personal and therefore a singularly
definable emotion. I believe one thing through experience, though, that I can only love a very few people unconditionally, and only one woman romantically at one time. The greatest love is to truly be willing to die for that person. Are you? Why is it that this ques. always comes up where ever you are? (But then again, what do I know?) Jeez, I wish I was your age again, it would be well worth all that pain just to do it all over again. You are going to be OK, I promise. Luv, -- Rat
--- luv, Rat

Answer 4

Sometimes people fall in love with other people that they know can not or do not reciprocate the same level of love. Often times people do this, albeit a bit unconsciously, because they fear a "real relationship." A classic example is the woman who dates married men. Why does she date a married man when the likelihood of the man leaving his wife for her is unlikely? Quite simply because she really doesn't want him to leave his wife!

Sometimes people want to feel like they are in love, but they don't want the "labor" that comes with a real love relationship. This is what is commonly referred to as "infatuation." Infatuation is this desire to feel love, but not really be in a love relationship. We use to call this a "fear of intimacy" but that term got way over-used and over-applied!

Most people experience this type of infatuation once or twice in their lives, usually in their teens or early 20's. When you are ready for a "real relationship" you will find that you don't choose to feel love for someone that doesn't feel it for you. Love really is a choice, whether you recognize or not on a conscious level. When YOU are ready, you will find someone to reciprocate your love.

Answer 5

Hi,

We all do , i do, its annoying yes, some girls are outright mean to me and i still fancy them, usually girls fancy guys who are something of a rebel and are therefore not very pleasant in return. I'm a guy tho and i fancy a girl whos been excluded from school 5 times in the past year - shes reely nasty to me but i just love that rebellious side - must be something to do with that or Sod's law.

Hope this helps
Jamie

Answer 6

Because you're not in love with them. It's called infatuation. And you do eventually get over it.

Answer 7

cause Cupid sucks!
likes playing tricks on us and f***ing our whole life up!

Answer 8

Sometimes your heart has a mind of its own and there's nothing you can do about it.