My wife is 21 and she joined the Army. I dont know what to do. I dont know if she will mess around on me, she says she wont and I belive her like 80%. I was in Military school for 4 years and I have a system down and now hopefuly she will understand the way I am. She wants me to move with her when she gets stationed, I love my job though and they offered me more money to stay. I dont know what to do... I am going to miss my wife so much. The one thing that is bothering me is that I am not going to know what she is doing and vis versa for her. I am fathful to my wife and always will be (I am 27) I will do nothing to hurt my marrage. In so many levels this is going to bring us closer cause I have been around wilitary life for a long time. I would join but I cant cause of medical reasons with my knee. I guess you can say I am afraid of being alone, we have been married for 1yr & 6mon. This is something she wants to do for her self and this is why I am supporting her so much. what to do?
2006-09-24 05:57:37 · 14 answers · asked by thumper_airman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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I love my wife and I do trust her. I have been away for 1-2 weeks do to my job. I also know that nothing happened while I was gone. I trust and respect her desion I guess you can say I dont think she knows what she is getting into in the long run. I have seen marrages go down the drain from this. Yes I admit that our marrage is strong and a bunch of our friends ask us what we do that there not. I guess you can say that I am scared cause she is not going to be here. I feel like she jumped into this. Yes she did talk to me about it a little but before we could fully talk about it she was at the recruters office and I blame her friend for this in so many ways. She is going into the buddy system thing they have now. I have talked to her recruter and I was there when she signed the contract and I made sure what the recruter told us was in it. Also it is 3 guys to 1 girl I have done my research I just need input from other people.
2006-09-24 06:24:06 · update #1
ok people my wife is very happy with me I take care of my wife. We do great things togather. The excitement is there and always have been. we have also been togather for 6 years married for 1 almost 2. start being a man huh well I am a man. I am supporting her in her when no one else will. Yes I dont like it in some ways but if it something that she wants then she will learn that life is not fun and games all the time and I feel in alot of ways she needs to learn that.
2006-09-24 06:30:19 · update #2
So being from a militray background what have you seen as far as how women are regarded in the service?
And once she gets called off for duty your not going to get lonely and want some female companionship? What about her?
I only know from what ive been a part of firsthand and can't speak in a general fashion but it's something to consider. Did she tell you she was joining?
I've seen more bad than good come from relationships doing the military deal so make sure to discuss things before she goes to camp. Good luck.. ..
2006-09-24 06:10:18 · answer #1 · answered by se7en 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Believe me when I say any wife that would join the military after being married less than two years is not happy in her marriage. Unless this was discussed before you two married I would say this is grounds for divorce. Better now than latter. Stop being a baby and act like a man. You are not supporting her for a good thing (like going back to school to become a doctor) What is this garbage about "I am afraid of being alone" You are alone now.
2006-09-24 06:15:29 · answer #2 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My name is Matt and I'm in the Corps. I've been in for about 2 and a half years now, and when I joined I had been dating my girlfriend for about a year, and we are still together and still going strong. One of the main things that keeps a military relationship going is trust, if you could trust your wife before she joined the army, not to sleep around on you if you were out of town for a few days then you can still trust her now. As for going with her where she is stationed, only do it if it is something you know you won't regret. I could have probably had my girlfriend marry me and we could be living together happily, but she wanted to go to college and the best schools for her where back home 1000 miles away, so for the past two years we have been making it work.
Good Luck
2006-09-24 06:08:33 · answer #3 · answered by Matthew B 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not saying that your wife will be fickle but the male/female ratio in the military allows women to get in their head that they have the world at their fingertips when it comes to choosing a man. The divorce rate is high and there will be alot of guys trying to pick up on her. I'm not trying to discourage you but I've seen it with my own eyes.
2006-09-24 06:04:38 · answer #4 · answered by Motorpsycho 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
all you can do is support her and TRUST her. i don't know why you have these trust issues. but if you don't resolve them you are going to ruin your relationship. if she has never given you a reason to doubt her then you need to let it go. a lot of times people cheat because someone keeps accusing them of cheating and they feel like if they're going to be accused they might as well do it. it doesn't make it right. but it happens that way sometimes. maybe you should go to counseling while she's away so that you can deal with your insecurities. good luck.
2006-09-24 06:08:10 · answer #5 · answered by fungirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she has ambition and you have to trust her,,it would be the same if it were you and she was an army wife,,if she needs to do this because it has been her calling it would be unfair to put yourself between the army and the marriage,,there is no saying it wont work out and if she were to cheat it is because she is capable of cheating not just because of her career path chosen,,,,you are just worried,,show support,be there when she needs you as a husband should be and all may just turn out fine.
2006-09-24 06:12:27 · answer #6 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let her go and do not follow. She knew the deal when she signed up. If she did that anyway you know how she feels. Whatever though she will be changed later. Get the divorce now and see if she comes back when her enlistments up.
2006-09-24 06:06:05 · answer #7 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
one thing about the military is that the females in it are outnumbered by 9 to 1, so i would advise you move there with her, because otherwise the temptation will overpower her
2006-09-24 06:06:20 · answer #8 · answered by ttf101 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She wasn't getting enough excitement in her life. Provide some.
2006-09-24 05:58:34 · answer #9 · answered by S K 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
joined the army whats up with that seeya she's trying to get away from you
2006-09-24 06:01:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋