A friend of mine said that she felt real good after she took revenge on her cheating man...i'm sure that this brings real satisfaction to anyone...what do you think?.......
2006-09-24 05:57:01 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
2 wrongs don' t make a right.
2006-09-24 06:00:00 · answer #1 · answered by NONAME 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course it brings real satisfaction. Revenge is sweet. At the moment. Then you realize you just brought yourself down to their level of lowness.
2006-09-24 06:03:56 · answer #2 · answered by Katt Attack 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it should not bring you satisfaction...unless you want to be the same kind of person as a cheating bastard. Revenge is something bad that should give you a guilty feeling.
2006-09-24 06:00:15 · answer #3 · answered by pyt_tlc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Revenge can feel good, but it's only temporary. Eventually, for your own sake, you need to find a way to forgive.
Remember, some revenge can have unexpected results-- it could backfire, or the wrong person could get hurt.
(An old prof specialized in revenge. Very interesting stuff.)
2006-09-24 06:45:48 · answer #4 · answered by cleeps 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it's satisfying, as long as it doesn't go too far. Taking revenge on someone puts your anxieties to rest and helps you close a bad chapter in your life, but be careful not to take it to extremes, because you want it to be something you can brag about to your friends and they'll admire you, not something where if you brag about it to your friends, they'll be scared and might consider calling the cops. But I know from experience, payback feels good, especially when the other person can't do anything about it.
2006-09-24 06:07:21 · answer #5 · answered by neilgant18 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, because what comes around goes around. When you get revenge you sink to the level of the person you're getting revenge on.
Tempting as it is. Revenge isn't good.
2006-09-24 06:06:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There can be more satisfaction in feeling too superior to some jerk to even be bothered.... Write him off, think of him as "dead to you", and live your life.
Taking revenge shows a lack of self-control, which makes a person look stupid and immature. It shows the other person that you actually cared or were hurt, so there's yet more lack of dignity and more giving that other person power he doesn't deserve.
It shows stooping to someone else's level (even if in different way) or even stooping lower than his level. More lack of dignity.
It may give someone a sense of satisfaction, but it isn't the quality of satisfaction that a person can get by feeling superior to the "guilty party" and by keeping a sense of dignity and self-respect.
If someone does something you can sue over, I think its great to drag them through court and to win; but that's a different type of revenge because it is a socially acceptable and dignified way to show your "winning skills" to the other person while making him pay. Suing someone in court is a "thinking person's revenge".
Slashing someone's tires is stupid - and the person who does it may be the one who ends up with charges of malicious damage to property and ends up paying or going to jail or both. On top of that, the person has lost the respect of others and self-respect and dignity and show the world how stupid he or she can be. Lack of self-control is not a very impressive thing for a person to have.
In addition to all of the above, if someone really hurts someone physically or damages property that could be valuable or have sentimental value its an evil thing to do. The person who commits evil isn't just showing himself and others that he is capable of acting in an inferior way, he IS inferior. The person without enough conscience to stop himself from doing something evil shows a form of emotional problems at best and mental illness at worst.
Your friend may have felt good to take revenge, but she can't take it better now - ever. She now has something in her history and on her soul that can't be undone. Rather than being able to look back on a bad situation and thinking, "I handled that well and with dignity and self-respect" she will have to always know that she wasn't capable of dignity and self-respect or self-control; and she'll never have the opportunity to think, "No matter what I am or what I've been through, I can be proud of the way I've handled things."
She may have gotten satisfaction, but the price of that is in having other people (even if she doesn't think this way) see her as a weak individual or as someone who allowed herself to get her emotions all going over a person who wasn't worth it.
I know there are people in the world who don't bother with things like self-respect, pride and dignity; but those things are what make a person's life better and what make a person better as a human being. Not having those things makes your friend less than, maybe, the person who cheated on her; and they may her less in the eyes of most other people.
I don't think there's any real satisfaction in doing something that makes a person less than the person they're taking revenge on. For some people there may be a temporary "high" , but that wears off when the rage dies down and a person is left without dignity and without being able to say "I was better than that."
Temporary or fleeting satisfaction? Maybe. Real satisfaction? No. Your friend is going to run into her own consequences as a result of her actions one way or another.
2006-09-24 06:59:40 · answer #7 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. I'm in no position to exact revenge. "Vengence is mine", sayeth the Lord! I'm not screwin around with His job fer nutz! I'll just let it go! So should any mortal. It's not gonna feel too good when the real vengence gits laid on.
2006-09-24 06:08:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Much as I hate to admit it, it does.
But the satisfaction doesn't last, and you are stuck with the feelings. It's better to get away from the cheater and into a relationship with someone who values your feelings
2006-09-24 06:32:17 · answer #9 · answered by Buffy Summers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the type of revenge. The best way to get him back is to move out and move on, and his Karma will get him in the end!!
2006-09-24 07:10:59 · answer #10 · answered by Redawg J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if the guy she messed around with for revenge was good...........I'm sure it brought her 'some sort' of satisfaction....but it won't solve the problems of the situation to begin with.
2006-09-24 06:06:38 · answer #11 · answered by Scotty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋