a gal in my class is very rude &most of us hate her, but still lecturers give her importance?

Question

wats wrong with them, cant they differentiate between good and bad.neither at studies nor at behaviour is she good at. funny part is the lecturers who cares abt her so much, she speaks bad about them.does face value more worth than ones character?

Answer 1

you judge on face value here. you do not know what this person has inside them, only the facade of what you See on the outside.

Answer 2

There is one big talker in every class. Sometimes that person gets on the lecturer's nerves but they don't show it because they don't want to look unprofessional. Other times they may like the person because it gives them feedback, someone IS paying attention, someone DOES understand my lecture. Often times this person is an older, returning student and the lecturer respects that and wants to praise that.

Answer 3

See buddy, u r no 1 to judge iff she's good or bad. It should not bother u iff she doesnt deserve wat she gets. OK??
Or else, u'll sit brooding all ur school-days n she'll emerge out the winner.
May be she's good to those who r important to her n tell me doesn't talk ill of teachers?? - every1 does - u might b doing it too.
Stop thinking this way - this is going to hurt no1 but u...

Answer 4

Learn to love!

Answer 5

Can I smell something burning?........

Answer 6

ASK YOURSELF IF YOU FEEL SO ONLY BECAUSE U HATE THAT GIRL, TO FIND OUT READ THIS...

When I hate a person or a group of people, I:

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harbor the most extreme level of anger possible against them.
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ignore and avoid them; they don't exist for me.
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am easily aggravated by their behavior, looks, or attitudes.
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get agitated when I think about them; it gets worse when I am in their presence.
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have an antagonistic attitude toward them.
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find myself being cruel, vicious, vindictive, or revengeful with them.
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exhibit inflamed, incensed, ill-tempered, or disagreeable behavior if the topic of conversation turns to them.
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become rude, belligerent, combative, enraged, or intolerant with them.
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act bigoted, prejudiced, callous, insensitive, or malicious toward them.
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fantasize murderous, violent, bloodthirsty, inhuman, sadistic ideas about them.
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become dogmatic, critical, malicious, and severe in my judgment and statements about them.
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look unfriendly, unfeeling, unlikable, unmerciful, sullen, sulky, or spiteful whenever I talk to or about them.
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become enraged, wrathful, and piqued when I hear their name mentioned in any positive way.
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find myself being cold, distant, aloof, uncaring, and obstinate in my discussions with them or about them.
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act offended, opposed, provoked, or irritated when they speak to me.
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deliberately misunderstand them.

What causes my hatred?

My hatred toward a person or a group of people is rooted in my belief that they have:

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treated me unfairly or abused me.
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acted in such a way that my future success was imperiled or adversely affected.
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unjustly accused me of wrong doing.
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laid a guilt trip on me, preventing me from taking care of myself in a healthy way.
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never given me a chance to be my own person and to feel good about myself.
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adversely affected my personal development and contributed to my lowered self-esteem and self-worth.
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said things about me that I can't forgive or forget.
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acted in such a way that my resentment and rage are the only possible responses.
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exhibit qualities, behavior patterns, or characteristics that have great physical or emotional danger to me.
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a horrible reputation, stigma, or myth about them that is hard to refute or disprove.
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had something better than what I have and are unwilling to share it with me.
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had life easier than I, they haven't had to work as hard as I to survive.
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no desire to help me reach material or emotional success in life.
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wretched, vile, loathsome personalities that breed misery and pain for me.
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attacked my reputation or honor, in reality or imagination.
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been obstinate, unwilling to submit to my control, power, supervision, or guidance.
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been a threat, either real or imagined, to my sense of security, well-being, and contentment.
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never understood my needs and have ignored me because of this.
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never given me approval, recognition, or reinforcement for the "good'' person that I am.
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only pointed out my failures.
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betrayed the trust and faith I once placed in them.
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been the underlying reasons for my unhappiness today.
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been controlling, manipulative, sneaky, ruthless, and scheming in their dealings with me.
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hostile, hateful, and hypercritical ways of dealing with me.
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been "power mad'' in their attempts to control me.

What are some examples of my hatred?

My hatred toward individuals is reflected in the following statements:

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I could never be "good'' enough for him.
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No matter how hard I tried, I never felt her love.
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I was abused (physically, verbally, or emotionally) by him.
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She abandoned me long ago.
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He lied, cheated, and stole from me.
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Her lust for other men was insatiable; I was left alone.
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I still feel the pain of her rejection.
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If he had done what I asked him to do in the first place this wouldn't be happening to me now.
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She deserves everything she has coming to her. It couldn't have happened to a "nicer'' person.
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I am this way because of the way she treated me.

My hatred toward groups of people are reflected in the following statements:

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They are all just alike: No good!
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You can't trust any of them.
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They only want to use, abuse, and then discard you.
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They are what is keeping our country from being great.
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If you give them an inch they'll take a mile.
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You can never turn your back on them.
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They all have it so much easier then I do; they don't deserve it.
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Their one goal in life is to control others.
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They always win no matter what; why play the game.

What are some negative effects of my hatred?

Because of my hatred toward a person or group of people, I find that I am:

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never fully happy or content.
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bitter and cold toward almost everybody in my life.
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not sought out by others to be a friend.
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socially isolated and lonely.
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caustic, hostile, sarcastic, and cynical.
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embittered, saddened, and desolate a good part of the time.
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lacking in enthusiasm, energy, and spontaneity in my daily life.
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cold, distant, and aloof in my dealings with others.
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mistrusting, paranoid, and suspicious in my relationships.
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stuck in my quest for healthy self-esteem.
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guilty over the negative feelings that I can't let go of.
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easily provoked to anger and my "hot buttons'' are pushed when the person or group of people I hate is mentioned in any positive way.
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wasteful in the expenditure of my emotional energy by venting my chronic negative feelings.
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prone to over-compensate by behaving in a completely opposite way from those I hate.
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unable to get on with my life; I tend to dwell on or blame everything on my past.
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touchy, highly emotional, or overly sensitive when my "hateful'' behavior is pointed out to me.
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defensive about my right to hold on to my hateful beliefs.
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more focused on those I hate than on myself and my personal growth.
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closed to the suggestion to forgive and forget the past and get on with the present.
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prone to lose sight of my personal power and my ability to chose what I want to feel or do.
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overwhelmed by my bitterness and anger.
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unable to be optimistic.
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unwilling to believe that it is my choice to feel hatred.
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stubborn, unwilling to accept that often people have done the best that they could knowing what they did at the time.

What irrational thinking contributes to my hatred?

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They should have known better.
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No one should have to go through what I have in my lifetime.
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They should have known how badly they were making me feel.
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He should not have been so mean to me.
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She should not have left me the way she did.
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I should have been recognized for all the good things I did.
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He should not have been so manipulative with me.
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She should have done the things I told her to do.
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They should have recognized my goodness, talent, competency, and worth and told me so.
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What good is it to forgive and forget the past now?
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I will never trust another human being again.
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My life should be easier than it is.
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If only I had had good luck and the benefits of others, e.g., education, money, good looks, I would be a happy person.
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No matter how hard a person works he will never change his fate.
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I am always taken advantage of and always end up a loser in relationships.
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All _______ are bad. (Parents, men, women, children, Jews, blacks, whites, Asians, Hispanics, Polish, Italians, Arabs, psychologists, doctors, lawyers, car salesmen, insurance companies, or your personal object of hate.)

How can I overcome my hatred?

To overcome my hatred of a person or group of people I need to:

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assess my hatred: is it based on what is real or on what is imagined.
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determine if the person or group of people intentionally set out to hurt, abuse, neglect, or mistreat me.
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analyze whether or not the person or group of people knew how negatively I was being affected by them.
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identify what relevant facts were lacking for the person or group of persons in their dealings with me.
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analyze what my thinking was like at the time I was being mistreated.
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identify the irrational component of my thinking about this mistreatment and replace it with more rational and realistic thinking.
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perform anger work-out sessions until I have exhausted my hatred to the point where I can forgive and forget the past.
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admit that even if a person set out to hurt me, knowing full well how badly I would feel, it does me no good to harbor this hatred. It exhausts my emotional energy. I need to let go of it and get on with my life.

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