Can he really do this to me??????????

Question

My husband of three years who i have waited on hand and foot has handed me divorce papers i thought his affair had stoped but he is leaving me for another woman who is 19! he is 28 years old!He has given me 2 weeks notice to move out and has taken all the money out of our joint checking account. Is he leagally allowed to do this?We have a 12 month old son together! i dont understand i have done everything for him i could i take care of a six year old step-son , a second cousin who is 4 years old names she is a girl i have custody of her at this time, and 12 month old son . My husband 28 years old is a vet who works for his father practice and i am a zoologist who works partime at the zoo. We have 4 dogs, 1 cat, 1 domesticated skunk, 1 bunny rabit, 1 lizard , 1 turtle, 2 mice, 1 african gray parrot, and a Squirrel. I do all the cooking and cleaning and reason we only had sex once a week was because i was exahsted and he never helped!

Does this mean i can take all the animals cooking supplies and furniture because i bought them!?

We live in New jersey.My husband told me since he bought the house i have to leave?

He cleaned out all the money in our joint accont.

Some of these animals are his and he did not want to get rid of them his dogs and other pets got more attention than me!

At least half of money in the account was mine!

Answer 1

First, you do not have to move out. Get a lawyer, counter sue for your own divorce and take him to the cleaners. The courts look askance at a guy who cheats and then tries to throw his family to the curb. He cannot keep community property. I don't know where you live but you have a good case. Pay back is still a biitch.

Answer 2

I don't believe he can force you to leave without the courts help. If you're married, you both own the house and everything in it. You need to obtain an attorney ASAP. Don't let him intimidate you. Nobody can evict you with such short notice anyway. It must be a 30 day notice, then if you fail to vacate he has to go through the courts to have you removed. This will buy you quite a bit of time. I suggest that you open a new bank account during this time so that he doesn't have access to your money and find a lawyer. A lot of the time, in these circumstances you'll get the house, the pets etc. Don't be afraid, stand your ground. If you can't afford an attorney, check the website I'm including and you should be able to find one there for free or very low cost. Do not leave the house !!! Don't remove anything from the house !!! Don't sell anything that you own, by law it belongs to both of you and you can foul your case by doing that. Keep your chin up, you'll get through this just fine. Follow your state laws to the T. Judges don't like sneaky.

Answer 3

first things first you need a lawyer. Second he can not just give you 2 weeks notice and expect you to leave. If it's not on eviction notice from a local court then he can't do jack. About your checking account...You need to get copies from your bank of ALL transactions and go back as far as you can go. Make sure that you get copies of any checks you deposited that are in your name alone ie Payroll checks or direct deposit. This will show that you contributed to any money that was in that account and are entitled to at your share. Second go down to the local child support office and make sure that he pays his due. I would also take inventory of anything in that house that you paid for. You can bet on this NO judge will have you and your children put out on the street and untill the living situation is decided in court the police (if called) will likey tell him he has to leave. I hope I have been of some help.

Answer 4

Ill try and help here, first cleaning out your acct depends on whether it was before or after the divorce was physically filed in court as to what you can do. Agree to and sign nothing unless you totally agree with it. You will be awarded your children with support and possible spousal support, the house because of the custody of the kids. Bills will be split. He will get state mandated cildrens visitation rights. The animals will be left to you two to decide. Now take him for everything youre legally entitled to as revenge for cleaning out the acct. An atty isnt really necessary here as let him pay for the atty to draw up the papers,but make sure you agree to everything before agreeing or signing anything. If needbe hire yourself a Paralegal as its a whole lot cheaper and just as good as an atty since he does the attys footwork. Good luck

Answer 5

You have the child, you shouldn't have to move. If your dwelling is in both of your names, than you have just as much right to be there as he does. Maybe he wants you to move out because you take care of all those animals and put their needs before his? Not to be mean, but if your too tired for sex because he won't help take care of the animals, I'd get rid of the animals. He is allowed to take all of the money out of your joint checking account, even though it sucks. If you have joint credit cards, cancel them, have his name taken off, or yours. Before you move out, talk to a lawyer, but don't let him know that you are doing this. And when you leave, make sure that you take everything you want, because it's too hard, nearly impossible, to retrieve things later; they usually won't let you. So if it's important to you, get it now. Is the cousin yours or his? You might want to check into New Jersey law to find aout the rights you have concerning the house. Don't take his word for it. If he's anything like mine, he's going to tell you all kinds of things like that and hope that your dumb enough to take his word for it, so check on that , and don't let him know that you are checking.

Answer 6

he cant give you 2 weeks to leave it has to be a months notice! i think he's in for a treat when he see's that this 19 year old isn't going to be good step mother material for his 1&6 year olds but who knows maybe she will maybe you did too much for him whats up with all the pets thats why you were exahsted you had to take care of 3 kids yourself him and 13 pets.

Answer 7

You need to get a lawyer fast!!
Don't go anywhere!!! The judge looks at what is best for the children involved and they won't have to leave their home!!!
That is decided at the end of the divorce, if he isn't happy then he can leave!! He will still be responsible for the bills of the house!!
Hang in there, he sounds like a jerk!!!!
He will have to pay you good child support and maybe even alimony!! Get proof of him and the 19 yr. old and things will be totally in your favor!!!
Marriage isn't based on sex...don't be so hard on yourself!

Answer 8

joint account is joint,,he cant take anymore than half unless he can show you dont contribute to adding funds,,get a lawyer,,if he leaves you ,,you can legally change the locks but you cannot throw him out if both names are on the deed/lease,let her have him because to be honest love,,does it sound serious to you or does it sound like a man who isnt happy at the minute but doesnt realise why,,yes this girl may be fun and new and exciting but i give it 4 months before he decides he has made a huge mistake and begs to come home,,she will spend all his money,,refuse to care for his children,,get bored with the 'im tired' routine after he comes from work and will probably get on his nerves with childish assumptions,,this is quite common really,,get a lawyer,,let him go,,give him his bills and wave,,seeya,,,4 months or il eat my hat,and you can put pepper on it too.

Answer 9

Girlfriend! I wouldn't go anywhere. You have the child. He can't put you out of your home. Yes! your home. It's yours just as much as it's his. You're his wife right? So that mean he can't do a Damn! thing until you'll go before a judge. And when that does happend I'm here to tell you that he is in for a rude awakening. Because he might be the one packing up & having to leave. You might want to tell him that it would really be cheaper to keep you!!!!

Answer 10

firstly don't put any more money into the account you can't do much about what as gone but i stress what ever you do do not move out of the house he can not make you leave especially with children. GET your self a solicitor fast. good luck