I am interested in hearing what replies people have given to others when they first tell you that they love you and you're not ready to say it back. Do you just smile and say thank you? Do you give them a hug and tell them they're sweet? What would you do or what have you done??
2006-09-24 05:35:41 · 15 answers · asked by Kat ] 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Because I'm not in a romantic relationship, and I don't plan on being in one ever again, I will always say it back to anyone who says it to me.
There is more than one way to love someone, and you should never pass up an opportunity to say it. You never know if the next time you'll see them will be the last.
2006-09-24 05:42:30 · answer #1 · answered by Sister Di 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's been my experience that many people say it too early on in an relationship. What they really mean to say is that they're infatuated with the person, are emotionally dependent on then, or are lusting after them.
When you're with someone long enough, both people can sense the love without the akward moment of one blurting out "i love you"
For everyone else, I don't take an early "love" statement too seriously. I'd just smile and act appreciative, and then we change the subject. It's far more important to me they show their love rather than saying things.
2006-09-24 05:51:52 · answer #2 · answered by Funchy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Possibly.....I love you has a little bit deeper of feeling. But both really mean the same thing it just depends on the person and how they talk. Somebody might say "Love ya" but still inside really love you deeply, just feel more comfortable saying it that way.
2016-03-27 06:46:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the key here is that one is NOT ready to say it back. Next, consider the person making the statement - do we want to discourage them for good? Do we wish to spare their feelings and salvage a relationship? Knowing that would prompt us to the best direction to take and intensity to use in response. If we can honestly and candidly express our feelings or intentions, then the ball is back in their court and one may go from there as the heart and mind dictates.
2006-09-24 15:02:38 · answer #4 · answered by Zeera 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My girlfriend told me that she loves me 1st. I don't think I was ready to say it out loud even though I felt it. She told me while we were in bed after an emotionally intense conversation. I could hear the fear in her voice, as I later learned that she was a little scared too. I didn't say it back. I just let her hold me in her arms without either of us saying a word. A year and a half later, we can joke about me punkin' out that night and now I can't say it to her enough. It's almost sickening! :) She tells me that she felt me saying it and that was good enough given the circumstances.
2006-09-24 05:51:42 · answer #5 · answered by iluvmynotebook 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, I think that when they tell you that, you can smile, say thank you but politely tell them that "yes i do love you, but probably not to the extent that you love me,I see you as a friend, one of my closest friends in fact(just to make them feel not too bad). However, I don't think I'm ready for a committment to anyone as yet, so i think we need to take this a bit slower, and then see whether love really do take its toll in the future."
I don't know this is really difficult for true, geesh!!
2006-09-24 05:51:50 · answer #6 · answered by Bubble18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your pick:
What is it you really want?
Are you sure?
What do you mean by love?
Can you tell the difference between love and lust?
Do you say that to all the girls / boys?
That's sweet.
You over estimate me.
I'm married.
I love my wife.
I love you too.
Keep in mind that different people mean different things by it at different times and vary the meaning from one person to another - A lot of instant interpretation is required.
2006-09-24 05:44:26 · answer #7 · answered by Bring back Democracy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
u get emotional surprise and ,then you say to yourself wow i don't believe this is this really real what happen next,and them u think about it and eithe give them all the love and kisses they deserve r just walk away from it in disbelieve
2006-09-24 06:09:33 · answer #8 · answered by woodman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I said I felt touched and honored by their statement but that I didn't feel the same way.
2006-09-24 05:44:36 · answer #9 · answered by chocolatebunny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have hugged them and told them nothing. I have said, brutally honestly and in my teen years, I don't feel that way - not yet anyway, and I have never, ever said it unless I meant it.
2006-09-24 05:38:40 · answer #10 · answered by swarr2001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋