Dont you just hate liers?......?

Question

I cant stand people who lie all the time, they always get found out, and forget what they said...how do you catch a lier out?.......

Answer 1

I never purposely set out to catch someone lying, they eventually catch theirselves up in their lies. That's when I cut them off.

Answer 2

All you can do is make a mental note that such a person cannot be believed and move on.

Don't worry about making sure they know you're not stupid enough to believe them (although you could at times respond to a lie with, "I'm not sure I can believe that"). Don't get all involved in some lie they're telling either. Just change the subject. There is no point getting "all involved" with a lie by building a conversation on whatever it is the person said. There's no point is spinning your wheels over the fact that someone lies.

Bear in mind that sometimes a person may lie for some reason other than because he/she wants to be deceitful. Maybe one person asks a question that is too personal, and rather than say, "You shouldn't have asked me that" the other person will believe that an inappropriate question deserves other than a legitmate response. Some people may lie to keep the peace in some situation. Some may lie to protect another person's feelings. I'm not defending lies or liars, but I'm saying that a good percentage of lies are told out of some motivation other than an intentional wish to be deceitful; so there are times when forgiving someone for an occasional lie may be the right thing to do.

There are also some people who invite lies by being the kind of people who only want to hear what they want to hear, and if they don't they'll create a big problem for the person who has said something they didn't want to hear.

Whatever the situation, don't spend your mental energy trying to catch liars. Lies aren't worth your time. Your lack of trust in that person is the consequence they'll earn by lying; and if they make a habit of lying to everyone they know all the time their consequence will be being seen as someone who is never trustworthy and never to be believed. That's not a small consequence.

Answer 3

I do not hate liars, because at times i know i have lied myself.

There are those people that lie, everybody hates and keep on lieing.

There are those people who lie, get caught, swear they will never do it and keep on doing it

Then there are those liars that are able to twist the truth so badly it doesn't even appear to people they are lying.

People lie because they are afraid of the truth or hurting other peoples feelings.

You catch a liar out by confronting them friendly, about a story in a large group, maybe in front of friends,
They will avoid eye contact, maybe disregard the conversation or their story will completely change all together, The best way to catch a liar out is ask them straight out are you lying?
Remember... a person should never answer a question with a question unless they have some form of guilt. Usually they will stumble and you can catch their lies out straight away

Answer 4

Signs of Deception:
Body Language of Lies:
• Physical expression will be limited and stiff, with few arm and hand movements. Hand, arm and leg movement are toward their own body the liar takes up less space.

• A person who is lying to you will avoid making eye contact.

• Hands touching their face, throat & mouth. Touching or scratching the nose or behind their ear. Not likely to touch his chest/heart with an open hand.

Emotional Gestures & Contradiction
• Timing and duration of emotional gestures and emotions are off a normal pace. The display of emotion is delayed, stays longer it would naturally, then stops suddenly.

• Timing is off between emotions gestures/expressions and words. Example: Someone says "I love it!" when receiving a gift, and then smile after making that statement, rather then at the same time the statement is made.

• Gestures/expressions don’t match the verbal statement, such as frowning when saying “I love you.”

• Expressions are limited to mouth movements when someone is faking emotions (like happy, surprised, sad, awe, )instead of the whole face. For example; when someone smiles naturally their whole face is involved: jaw/cheek movement, eyes and forehead push down, etc.

Interactions and Reactions
• A guilty person gets defensive. An innocent person will often go on the offensive.

• A liar is uncomfortable facing his questioner/accuser and may turn his head or body away.

• A liar might unconsciously place objects (book, coffee cup, etc.) between themselves and you.

A liar will use your words to make answer a question. When asked, “Did you eat the last cookie?” The liar answers, “No, I did not eat the last cookie.”

•A statement with a contraction is more likely to be truthful: “ I didn't do it” instead of “I did not do it”

• Liars sometimes avoid "lying" by not making direct statements. They imply answers instead of denying something directly.

• The guilty person may speak more than natural, adding unnecessary details to convince you... they are not comfortable with silence or pauses in the conversation.

• A liar may leave out pronouns and speak in a monotonous tone. When a truthful statement is made the pronoun is emphasized as much or more than the rest of the words in a statement.

• Words may be garbled and spoken softly, and syntax and grammar may be off. In other
words, his sentences will likely be muddled rather than emphasized.

Other signs of a lie:
• If you believe someone is lying, then change subject of a conversation quickly, a liar follows along willingly and becomes more relaxed. The guilty wants the subject changed; an innocent person may be confused by the sudden change in topics and will want to back to the previous subject.

• Using humor or sarcasm to avoid a subject.

Answer 5

Yes, but, a lier will always lie about lying. I think they the only ones who believe what they say.
"Lier, lier, pants on fire"! Ha!
Copying and Pasting without references could be a form of lying too.

Answer 6

Yes.....i really hate when people lie to you because you can tell by the face they make. Like if someone said that they went to a detroit tigers game and you were watching it at home then the next day you ask them what the score was and they say well......i was just watching the players!?!? By then you know they are lieing. All poeple lie but you should not lie all the time, you can lose friends that way. And fir one i would not want at a friend or anyone iwas close to, to lie to me all the time because when they tell you something you look up to what they said and then when you think about it you know right a way that they were lieing to you. it us to hurt all the time because i use to believe everyone but know i now when someone is lieing because when you say "you said we would go to the mall on sunday, and then they say No i said monday" right then you know that they are lieing to you and then you ask that question again but say"so its monday what time do you want to go to the mall and they said we are not going intill Thursday, know you know they lied to you 2 times so know you tell them that you are going know and that you were not going to wait because they keep on lieing to you.

Answer 7

I think you mean "liar" not "lier". ;-)

I tend to take what people say with a grain of salt until I see proof. They can tell me the wildest stories, and I don't care... I just nod my head and ignore them. If I catch a friend giving me a major lie, it becomes clear this person isn't a good friend and I avoid them.

Answer 8

I'm rather amused when they contradict themselves and I subtly point that out. Although I have a boss who also lies and that's not very amusing. No matter how many people already told her bosses she's a lying b*tch, they never do something about her and a number of people have already left because of her. I must say, I feel a certain amount of hatred for her. But that's because she's in a position where she can really hurt people with her lies. And she does.

Answer 9

You just said they always get found out. So why do you need to know how to catch them? And the word is "liar", not "lier".

Answer 10

When will folk stop picking on Bush and Blair - Okay they're easy to catch out lying because they're quoted in the press and recorded on TV and radio - but lets face it - If everyone had every word they said thrown back in their faces we'd all be proved to be liars

Answer 11

yeah i hate liers too but if u catch them they will lie again and say they didnt do it