2006-09-24 05:26:56 · 17 answers · asked by tasha 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
FALSE! That was probably written by a man.
Women who are stuck in abuse are scared to get out or stop it afraid they'll die or something. It isn't her fault. It's the guy's fault.
2006-09-24 05:29:09 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
False! Unless you've been in an abusive relationship, it's really hard to understand it. It usually begins so subtley, you don't even realize it's happening. By the time you do, you've been isolated from everyone and everything you know, have no money or assets and have very little or none of the self esteem you once had. You even doubt your own sanity. That's usually when the physcial aspect of the abuse kicks in. Believe me, you think all the time about leaving but fear of what will happen to you,and especially to anyone who helps you, is a strong deterrent.
Get a restraining order, you say? That's nothing more than a piece of paper that's all too often walked through. By the time the police can respond, you're ready for a long stay in the hospital or you're in the morgue.
I'm one of the few lucky ones who has successfully gotten out of an abusive relationship. I had family I was finally able to tell what was going on (we lived in different states). Fortunately, there were no children involved and I was able to leave "over night". My parents have had to change their phone number on several occasions and they still recieve letters threatening me and them.
It's been over seven years and I now have a family of my own. I'm remarried to a wonderful man and we have a child of our own. I still live in fear that my ex-husband will figure out where I am (my husband knows and nothing is in my name due to this). I consider myself a survivor and not a victim. I didn't give in. But I know I'm one of the lucky ones.
2006-09-24 12:54:37 · answer #2 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
False
2006-09-24 12:28:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
False.
I was in an abusive relationship when I was 14.
I wanted to leave him right away but I couldn't as the freaking psycho threatened me. At that time, his threats were very real as he is from a rich and influential family and he would be able to get away with anything.
Now, I know that his abuse probably arosed because of a mental disorder. I am not angry but I just pity him and his future girlfriends.
2006-09-24 12:36:12 · answer #4 · answered by floozy_niki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
False. The actions of others are never her fault, however, if she doesn't want to get hurt, there are shelters she can go to. My great-aunt was abused by her husband. She handled the problems by beating on him. She learned to use whatever was near her as a weapon. Once she poured a pot of boiling potatoes on him. He never hit her when she was in the kitchen again. That became her safe place. (This was before women's shelters existed and divorce was hard to get.)
2006-09-24 12:35:02 · answer #5 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's false, Love is blind, but so is fear and she may see no other alternative but to stay with the abuser. Some people need loved ones to help and intervene and get them out of the situation by helping them get a restraining order or what ever.
2006-09-24 12:37:33 · answer #6 · answered by miss moni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No It is NEVER the womans fault!The person dishing out the abuse is responsible for his own actions.But if there is abuse the woman MUST leave and stay away no matter how much it hurts or how she is begged to come back.No one deserves to be treated that way you need to understand your own worth and value.Ther are many men who do not abuse please leave.
2006-09-24 12:39:30 · answer #7 · answered by maryann c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's never the abusee's fault. the feelings of someone who is abused are complicated and not understandable by those who have not been abused. the fact that she is not trying shows that there is a certain strange security that she feels in this relationship. also, maybe her father was abusive; if that's the case, then that can cause emotional and mental health issues. whatever the case, it is never the abusee's fault.
2006-09-24 12:30:45 · answer #8 · answered by Megan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
False!
Abuse typically starts with small things, then grows. The abuser usually "brainwashes" who they are abusing to think they are useless and stupid, that they cannot go on with life without them. Then the problem gets bigger.
2006-09-24 12:30:36 · answer #9 · answered by JC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Its never someone's fault for being the victim of abuse. Its the abuser's fault. He's the one who needs to be in anger management classes, therapy, or jail. (needs to get his butt whooped, too)
2006-09-24 12:29:29 · answer #10 · answered by farahwonderland2005 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋