"If she won't leave or stop the abuse when she can, it's her fault she gets hurt" true or false?

Answer 1

As you've worded it, it is true. If she won't leave or stop the abuse WHEN SHE CAN... (then it is her fault) But that is almost never the case.

The real issue is how does she stop the abuse or leave when she can't, or doesn't know how?

Abusers often play a great pyschological game and keep us women fearing for our children, our lives, whatever. When you are the subject of that kind of mind control you can't break away.

Answer 2

There are many people who do believe that a woman who will not leave an abusive relationship is causing her own problems. I say it is a little more complicated than that. An abusive relationship is hardly black and white. It has shades of gray all through it. However, a woman who stays must realize that the abuse will not stop just because the man claims he is sorry. When true abuse is involved the only way to break the cycle is for the abuser to get professional help and the abused to leave the relationship.

In answer to your question: false

Answer 3

FALSE!!

It is extremely hard for a woman to leave an abusive partner. She may not have a job, or money, or a car, or a safe place to go. She may have children that she needs to take care of.

Attempting to leave could also increase the violence in a relationship.

There are also psychological issues at work. A lot of abuse is cyclical--the relationship goes through a period of rising tension, a violent episode, and then a honeymoon period or loving phase after the violence. This woman's partner may make her feel that he is sorry and he can change. And after many years of abuse, the woman may have been beaten down so badly that she no longer believes herself capable of or worthy of real affection.

Leaving is a long process. It is shallow to assume that because someone chooses to forgive a person that she loves, she is therefore at fault for that person's future actions.

Answer 4

False, sometimes when people are involved in abusive relationships they are so battered they don't have the strength or courage to leave. That dosent mean they deserve to be battered or abused. They need help to get out of the situation. No one deserves to be abused no one wants to be abused. Give her some solid options. Maybe the national domestic violence hot line so she feels she has a way out. # 1800-799-SAFE And just FYI: women when they leave a situation of domestic violence are in the most danger at that time, the situation becomes very serious and may even include the risk of her death or that of her children. They need to know they are going to be safe and secure without the risk of threat of their lives. They need to put together a safety plan. Go on line and get the information for her and help her. Women should be empowering of other women. You can help empower her by giving her the tools to leave she may not know how or what to do. Give her the number and they can help her.

Answer 5

False. The person at fault is the one doing the abusing.

Answer 6

anyone getting abused [adult] is not at fault. abuser's program their victim and scare them so bad that they believe whatever the abuser tells them. if one can not leave due to many reasons and it is impossible to stop the abuse once it starts...eventually some outside the relationship can break the cycle long enough to show the abused person how to get away, that is when they can break away and leave the abuser, and re build their life in a normal way. it sounds to be you are a abuser or want to become one, or you think abusing someone is a good thing...wake up and grow up.no one has the right to control another person, abuse them or cause fear in someone that they will stay with you. THINK ABOUT IT , would you want someone to abuse your loved ones, or your daughter or son?

Answer 7

That's making the assumption that there is a point at which "she" can escape the abuse. There is usually a hook that the abuser uses to keep "her" under control and it's usually a control issue to begin with. By the way "he" can very easily be the victim in the scenario. It is never the victims fault, as there is no excuse for an adult to not control their self.

Answer 8

False

Answer 9

False

Answer 10

I feel that abuse is not just physical...mental and physical abuse affect the womans self belief and confidence...systematic abuse over a time can make a woman too afraid to leave and once it has started it usually continues. Its not because she wants to stay or that she enjoys the abuse it is just that in a lot of cases she is made to feel that she is worth nothing more than what she is getting.