Things have been rough with my husband, and the last year or so he doesn't share with me conversations that he has with his family or friends....I notice that he will talk with his family for like 45 mintues and not even tell me what is up with them. He told me that if I wanted to know to call and ask them. I feel that he doesn't share because he doesn't want me close to him or else he's not close to me, but he says this is not the case. What do you think?
2006-09-24 05:23:53 · 7 answers · asked by ilih2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He just choses not to share conversations he has with others, with me...like he doesn't want me knowing his business or something....
2006-09-24 05:36:20 · update #1
Perhaps he is just trying to save you from the pain !!!
2006-09-24 05:26:18 · answer #1 · answered by I_C_Y_U_R 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Saw that you also had another question relating to your relationship with your husband. Dont know which I could have answered better so I'll answer this one and do both. One of the big signs that a man wants a divorce is lack of communication about things going on in his life,whether it be family stuff or other things. Maybe with all things considered, you should just ask him if he wants a divorce,not in a pissy way, but just in a normal conversation.Then when he is wondering why you ask such a thing, tell him that he has shut you out of his life and wont share his life with you and that is what you are there for. Its time for you to get things out in the open with him and find out where he stands with your relationship. Theres no sense in going on with a relationship if it isnt a good thing for both of you. If he wont talk to you about it, then give him what he seems to want,a divorce! Good Luck Hun!!
2006-09-24 13:10:01 · answer #2 · answered by laddrjok 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you need to work on communication!!! Your spouse should be your best friend who you want to share everything with!
Start out talking about little things like the weather!!!
If you argue with him about what he says then he will stop talking to you; not sure if that's the case!!
This needs to change or your marriage will be failing!
2006-09-24 12:45:34 · answer #3 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may worry you may judge him,,this may not be so but if he is one of those men who doesnt talk because he just doesnt it is a hard habit to break,,,many people find they are on the point of breaking up before thay get something even close to personal out there,,they have to say how they feel or its over ,,their choice,,if he is one of these men it could be tough for you to break the mould but do keep trying,,,those little things that seem stupid ,,you know the ones,stupid ideas and thoughts that pop up in your head,,no matter how embarrassing,,say them,,show him you are daft too,,you have things that are hard to say but you take a chance on him thinking,,yes,you are a nut but he still loves you for it,,daft ideas and all,,he may just need to learn that given anything he says,you wont think bad of him,you wont judge him and anything he says wont be used against him,,he obviously trusts his family and that should include you,,let him know you feel hurt he tells them and not you and let him know he can tell you anything,,try sharing things close to home with him and let him know he is the only one you have told because it is embarrassing or painful to you but as he is your partner you have no fear of sharing it with him,trust takes time but once you have it,,
2006-09-24 12:32:27 · answer #4 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he may be embaressed by his family and doesn't want to drag you into it. Just let him know that you are there for him, no matter what. Leave it at that, if he wants he will tell you when he is ready. The more you push the less likely he is to tell you.
2006-09-24 12:28:54 · answer #5 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Read Men are from Mars and Women are frm Venus!
2006-09-24 12:41:00 · answer #6 · answered by aquarian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he ask you about your family?
2006-09-24 12:43:18 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋