We gave them a hundred dollars in thier gift envelope. When we got there, we had no place to sit (it was a packed house). We didn't get to eat dinner because of this so we went up to the bar to get drinks. They had cheap whiskey, cheap vodka, and some other cheap liquer for mixed drinks. And then bush light beer. Wouldn't you feel annoyed pretty much paying one hundred dollars for shitty drinks and a dinner you never got to eat?
2006-09-24 05:22:21 · 14 answers · asked by itsasecret 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
i understand your frustration, but try to think of it this way,the money you gave them was not for a nite out (for you and and your boyfriend) and that weddings are about everyone comming together to celebrate the union of two people and that the money you gave was not wasted but will help them start thier lives together....and i'm sure it meant alot to your friend that you were there
2006-09-24 05:31:27 · answer #1 · answered by los ollie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you RSVP?
There is supposed to be seating and food enough for all who RSVP.
They probably left everything up to the catering service, which is who you have your bone to pick with!
It probabably was a low cost wedding, but even a low cost wedding can cost $3,000 +
Even at high priced weddings things can be scarce. I know people who do $20,000 weddings and there's only so much Jack, Kamchatka, tap beer and MacGreggor can can provide.
It's sad this left a bad taste in your mouth. That is the opposite reason for weddings, otherwise why spend $3,000 or $20,000.
It's supposed to be a shared experience for all!
They were either inexperienced, got the wrong advaise, chose the wrong people or really had a low budget.
However if it helps any. I recently went to Olive Garden and we paid $24 a plate for Chicken Parmagan and Fettucini Alfredo and what do we get, two little Banquet Bread Crumed Chicken Patties (you can buy these for like $4 for a package of 6) with a tad of maranara sauce a slice of parmagin and a plate full of Fettucnini that was like it came out of a Kraft package (you know, $2 add milk and margerine, serves 6).
That meal at home, made the same way, is about $6 for THREE people and we paid $24.95 each.
So if you felt bad about that, NEVER go to Oliver Garden!
You'll spend $75 including drinks and basically get a Swansons Chicken PAttie TV dinner.
2006-09-24 12:36:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it stinks, but the wedding is just to celebrate the beginning of their life together. Likewise, the gift is a send-off to their new life together, so the gift does not need to reflect the quality of the wedding.
Also, keep in mind that weddings are horrifically expensive affairs, and in my opinion, a huge waste of money.
Why don't people just get married privately with close friends and family and then have a big casual party afterward to celebrate with their broader group of friends?
Maybe I should go to Yahoo Answers with that one, heh?
2006-09-24 12:29:00 · answer #3 · answered by CE S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I understood your question, you gave them the $100 as a gift. The wedding is about them and celebrating their union. If you had wanted to be catered to, then why didn't you go to a bar; instead of expecting a new couple who might be on a budget to supply you with all your high expectations? Sounds kinda selfish to me.
2006-09-24 12:28:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You seem to appoach the event like it was going to a ball game..You pay to enter. It is not the intent of the gift. You seem to look at it as what your gift will buy you. Not a very realistic way to look at a wedding reception.
2006-09-24 12:27:17 · answer #5 · answered by mrcricket1932 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you were invited to the wedding, you were supposed to be there to share their joy, and the 100 bucks you gave was supposed to be a gift, not to pay for food & drink... so no, I wouldn't be annoyed..
2006-09-24 12:27:03 · answer #6 · answered by whole_world_refugee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You gave them a gift to congratulate them on this wonderful occasion. You were invited to share in this day with them.
If you wanted to eat and drink you should have stayed at home.
It's very rude to critique any event that you are invited to.
2006-09-24 12:27:06 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wedding gift should total about twice what a similar night out would ordinarily cost.
2006-09-24 12:27:23 · answer #8 · answered by samssculptures 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Guess neither of you were very close friends to the bride or groom. Next time get there earlier.
2006-09-24 12:25:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yeah you are right
but without caring less about the wedding you should have gone to the bride and groom then something would have been done
but thats bad lol
sorry im just how they got your 100 and you got nothing
2006-09-24 12:27:13 · answer #10 · answered by uglyme 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋