2006-09-24 04:58:40 · 32 answers · asked by darl66 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
simply no ,,,if children r the issue then i would say no ,,,,coz 1 day they gonna grow up making their own decision, obviously then their would be no fights.divorce is for those couples who dont get along with each other on their own personal issues not just children.
2006-09-24 09:45:18 · answer #1 · answered by glitter 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you know you both had different parenting styles before you had children,,this is not such a bad thing if you can both learn to listen and compromise where decisions are made,,you or her cannot be right every time a decision is made,,not to say that one is always wrong either,,if you can agree that you both take your parenting seriously then you should be able to work out a happy medium,,at some point you will make a valuable contribution that she completely didnt see,,and you will be right,,this must have happened surely,,talk,listen agree to work out something that keeps both sides happy as you are both entitled to say how your children are raised and one person cannot reasonably do it when the partner is living there too.if you are thinking divorce then this question is well late,,you may end up with less say so in the raising of the boys if you do divorce and it doesnt sound like that is your intention,,talk to her about how boys need dads version on how things should be,,they are young men after all and need to understand how men do things,,women cannot do this,we can give them our version of how a boy or man should see things but as we are not men it is not the same.
2006-09-24 05:08:30 · answer #2 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling, therapy, a marriage class, a "raising your kids" class, some dialog, without heated argument.
If you take a class, or both agree to read a few parenting books, then GO OUT for coffee or pancakes and discuss what you like and dislike about what the books says. If you go in public to discuss there is a better likelyhood you will talk as opposed to argue. Bring notepads and really listen to each other.
If you divorce, it is more likely to be even worse. If she is strict, she will be rigid at her house, you will be the "disney dad". If you are strict, and she is more flexible, the kids will be raised without standards, and will hate coming to your house.
You have to step back from the situation, your disagreements, and look at the whole situation, almost academically. It is hard, but your kids are worth it!!!
2006-09-24 08:45:10 · answer #3 · answered by Beth M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way
Goto counseling and learn how to compromise with each other and learn to raise your two boys together if after 6 months to a yr of cousenling and things are not going well then yeah move on but for now do not get divorce it will effect your children think of them
2006-09-24 05:01:26 · answer #4 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your not the only one, I'm in the same boat. Ask yourself a few questions: do you love her? Are your kids playing both of you against each other? mine are.
Are the disagreemtns about staying out too late, drugs,sex, choosing friends, or is it about doing chores, or what? Maybe your wife feels overwhelmed with all the responsiblilty of kids, husband, etc... does she get a break from the kids? Maybe you two need to get a weekend break just to be alone. Children are the reason I have stayed with my husband, oh yea and money, If it wasn't for those two things, I'd be gone, What's your reason for staying with her?
2006-09-24 05:43:14 · answer #5 · answered by CRAFTYLADY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how the two of you handle the disagreements. You may want to attempt some marriage counseling before you make any "drastic" decisions. In the end, only you and your wife can make the call about to divorce or not to divorce.
2006-09-24 05:04:03 · answer #6 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try therapy first,and parenting classes in some states you are required to take parenting classes even when filling for a divorce. The most important question is .....Do you love your wife,and does she love you??? Honesty and communication even when it hurts is still the best way to start. Just don't stay together "just for the kids" It never works the way you think it will.
2006-09-24 05:42:13 · answer #7 · answered by fetter_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your only issues were relating to the kids' upbringing, that will remain even if you divorce, so that can't be the solution, and it certainly wont help the kids. My thought is that perhaps you have other issues within your marriage and this you portray through kids upbringing.
Therapy and advice from other experienced parents should be the way forward.
2006-09-24 08:07:51 · answer #8 · answered by ribena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you guys even tried family counselling?You both need to sit down with each other(when the boys are not around)and come up with compromises in relation to raising these boys.If not you should be asking for outside help with mediation so you can talk about this.
2006-09-24 05:36:06 · answer #9 · answered by cathy m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No stick at it fella, me and my husband disagree on everything in relation to our 3 kids and it's even harder as they are step kids!! Just make sure you have quality time for just you and your wife without the kids and make your relationship stronger in every other aspect this will then make them seem like less of a problem.
2006-09-24 05:12:50 · answer #10 · answered by waspy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some professional help!! You both have to compromise in the middle! Divorce is the last thing these two little boys need!!!
2006-09-24 05:03:58 · answer #11 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋