Ours is a close knit family. How can I get her involved so that she can slowly look at other proposals
2006-09-24 04:57:02 · 13 answers · asked by puro j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i never been a mom or a parent so..i cant tell you much from 'parents' point of view. but i had an experience like your daughter before. And i came from a very close family. As the person experience it...i can tell that these things takes time. its hard to find that special person in your life. let alone to let it go. especially if the problem is from outside forces, like family influences.
my suggestion is give her some time. let her think for herself at the moment. i figure she might be pretty upset with you for not letting her marry Mr. A. but in time she will undrestand that you only doing this out of good intention. you love her and wants what's best for her. just continue to show your love and support for her. when she is ready she will look for otehr candidate by herself without you have to push her around to do it .
2006-09-24 05:10:51 · answer #1 · answered by Andri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder if your daughter is not writing a Yahoo answers question asking "how do I get my parents to accept the fact that I am marrying a man they are against me being with"? The fact is that unless your family is so close knit that she will be in exile if she marries this guy, I don't know if your disapproval will matter to her. It still may not. As for the other proposals, what is this, the 19th century? Do you have a line of prospective husbands lining up outside your house with goats to buy her with?
You need to think about the reasons you are against this guy and weigh them out with your feelings for your daughter. She thinks she will not be happy unless she marries him. You think she will not be happy IF she marries him. Why do you think that? Why do you think she should just marry the next guy that comes along instead of waiting for someone she loves? Her marriage is not about you, it is about her happiness and you may just end up having to get along with someone who is not ideal so that your daughter can be happy.
2006-09-24 05:09:13 · answer #2 · answered by BLANK 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really think it's a big mistake, so be it. You've already told her what you think, so don't push it. If it's such a close knit family, you're going to have to get used to some new yarn. It's not your place to get her out of depression.
2006-09-24 05:01:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As parents we have to let our kids grow up. We did. She needs to make her own mistakes in her her own life. I am going through this now. My daughter is with a guy now. He 26 she is 20 they had a baby in may. He is the kinda of kid that does not want to work for a lot of different reasons. He has 4 kids now and does not pay or do anything for his kids. I told her she picked him so if she wants a change then she has to be the one to change it. Like i said, she has to make her own path. Just be there for her good or bad. She will appreciate you later for it.
2006-09-24 05:07:57 · answer #4 · answered by dave m 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are convinced that that person is not good, then you have to explain to her gently but cogently that she won't be happy with him. You have to give her time to get over the sentimentality. You may come up with better proposals and tell her nicely.
2006-09-24 05:11:31 · answer #5 · answered by Ishan26 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I Dont No You People From Adam. Maybe You Should Let Her Do What She Wants.
2006-09-24 05:08:18 · answer #6 · answered by mks 7-15-02 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd recommed getting the book Even Now by Karen Kingsbury. You need to read this book.
2006-09-24 05:10:16 · answer #7 · answered by Heart of Plat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why can't your daughter marry any man SHE chooses? You could possibly risk her resenting you for a very long time.
2006-09-24 05:30:18 · answer #8 · answered by LongAgo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its her life.. after all, she is e one gona face her husband for e rest of her life.. however, make known ur stand dat she shd nvr come back crying if she decides to marry e guy she wans to.. over all, let her decide her own.. if not, she amy blame n hate u for e rest of ehr life if anythin goes wrong wif her marriage..
2006-09-26 19:21:42 · answer #9 · answered by judy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but, if she's an adult, you have to let her make her own choices/mistakes. Tell her why you feel that it's a bad decision, but support her as her parents.
2006-09-24 05:13:54 · answer #10 · answered by mojo4395 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋