I cook every night after working ten hour day , she works six hours , I do grocery shopping , I don't watch sports , I am clean , I have not gained wieght since meeting her , we share same interests in many things . I help around the house , but I only get sex maybe ten times a year !
2006-09-24 04:48:39 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry I asked the question ! I know what the problem is , it was menopause she hasn't been the same since . I do supprise her and I do impromto back and feet rubs and i try to be supportive ! But after 16 yrs sometimes my mind wanders!
2006-09-24 07:47:25 · update #1
you married the wrong girl ... why doesn't she help out with the household chores?? have you tried initiating sex more often???
2006-09-24 04:50:22 · answer #1 · answered by emnari 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like shes not as in love with you as you are with her. I been married 26 years and get sex once a day at lease. I know thats more than most guys and my wifes not sex crazy. But she knows it pleases me and isnt that what being married is about ? Pleasing each other is important and it looks like your doing your part . For me ,I help her with dinner sometimes after working all day . I always help clean up after dinner . We make the bed togather in the morning and so much more. Shes my best friend . I love her even more now than when we married. Is your lady lazy or maybe messing around on you. You sound like what women always say they want. A guy that helps out , but it seems your not just helping out right now , but doing everything. Have a talk with her. If shes not willing to change it might be time to think about moving on. If she loves you she will want to make things work out.
2006-09-24 12:01:10 · answer #2 · answered by us citizen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like you're doing anything wrong. Make sure you acknowledge her, talk to her, kiss her right when you walk through the door from work. Try and say romantic things or do romantic things. Are there children that she's looking after? Maybe she's really tired even though she works less hours than you (especially if she has kids to take care of). If there are kids, try giving her a night to herself to have a soak in the tub. If no kids, soak in the tub with her, give her a massage... If all else fails, tell her that you would like more lovin.
2006-09-24 11:53:23 · answer #3 · answered by Mommy2Liam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women and men are wired differently. With you basically doing everything, she may feel you don't need her. She may be depressed, she may have hormonal imbalances. Lots of things affect a woman's sex drive. Don't nag or beg for sex, that will only turn her off more. Another thing: have you had a heart to heart with her about the issue? If you're so busy doing everything else, do you ever really take the time to sit down and talk to her? Listen to her, you will learn a lot with some time, love, and patience.
2006-09-24 11:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by shojo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy cow ! I think you need to sit down and talk to her. Communication is the key to ANY marriage. Tell her what you are feeling and that you desire sex many more times than 10 a year. That's awful. Perhaps she needs more courting to get her in the mood.....in her mind that is. Sex starts in the brain. Make a "date" with her. My husband and I set aside friday nights for our "date" night. It doesn't always turn into sex, but it helps for the weekend****wink-wink****. Do little things throughout the week....like leaving sexy notes around the house...or try this one. If she likes to get on the internet.....go to www.loving.com and get her a romantic/sexy card and send it to your email address. It works. I just did that for my husband LAST NITE.....and this morning before he went to work, he gave me the nicest hug/pat on the rear and neck nibbling. Be creative. That is also the key. Try to remember what it was like when you were dating. If you can't remember that, then just treat her as a date you live with LOL. Hope this helps. Here's my email address if you need more "clues" and can't think of a thing. spiderden17547@earthlink.net
2006-09-24 11:56:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be doing all this things around the house, but what are you doing for her (sexually)? If she's not happy with her personal experience with sex, she'll never be in the mood. You should talk things out with her and see how you can both help each other bring the excitement back in to the bedroom.
2006-09-24 11:54:45 · answer #6 · answered by Kitty Cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to make a judgement call, pal........we all need to hear her side of the story! Perhaps you are a wimp and she has no respect for you. Maybe she has a boyfriend and she is having sex more than 10 times a year. Perhaps you need to talk to her instead of all these know nothing people on Yahoo who could not punch their way out of a paper bag!
2006-09-24 11:53:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has come to expect those things as a normal routine!!!
Take her out to eat, Flowers, candles, wine, nice bubble baths,
body massages with some good oil always turn me on!! You need to get creative and do other things to get her in the mood!!
You sound like my husband!!! The help around the house is great; but doesn't excite me sexually!!!
You think she should repay you with sexual favors!! That's the last thing on her mind! Physical touch from you will get her more interested!! Start out slow with good hugs and some shoulder massages!! Make it your challenge; how to turn her on!!!
If somthing doesn't work....DON"T GIVE UP!! Try somthing else!
2006-09-24 12:26:05 · answer #8 · answered by Lucky 7 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may just have different sex drives. Discuss it with her and see if that's all it is, then see if you can negotiate a bit more sex and how she would like to be approached about it. If there is something else bothering her you need to know that too. A lot depends if she is 24 or 84 years old too, you know?
2006-09-24 12:23:33 · answer #9 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get your mojo back,,take the lead and treat her to a night of man,talking may help if you can get her to say why she doesnt like sex,,that may just be it,,she has no interest,no libido,,,,is she on any contraception as this sometimes can stop the desire for sex,,when i had a norplan implant the same happened to me,,it wasnt that i didnt want sex it was that i never thought of it,,never,,hard to feel sexy when you know your heart isnt in it,,complete fakery on my part,,got it out and found an alternative and wahey,,roberts your relative,,,it could be many things from her lack of labido to feeling depressed in her job to finacial worries,,we women are finiky sods and it doesnt take much to make the desire go away,,talk to her but not in an accusing way,,let her know you love her and want her and find it hard not to show her in a loving sexual way.
2006-09-24 12:24:39 · answer #10 · answered by lex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not married, happily divorced now. But you sound like a great guy! To do all those things for her is GREAT, but something is wrong here. Was she like when you were dating? Is she was, why did you marry here? I know, hoping she would change, right? Try candlelight with dinner, soft music. Kiss on the neck, soft back rub!
2006-09-24 13:57:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋