I had a miscarriage about 7 months ago, I had a D+C. I just wondered if I was to get pregnant again would they ask questions about my miscarriage infront of my boyfriend? e.g if they say "have you had a miscarriage before" I don't want to say no incase it affects my new pregnancy howeve I don't want my boyfriend to know about my loss. Or is all my information on record and completly confidential? Thanks.
2006-09-24 04:48:15 · 8 answers · asked by lola 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
There is absolutely no need for your boyfriend to be present during you telling your health history. When you mention the miscarriage, make sure the person taking your history writes *CONFIDENTIAL* next to it.
But it might be best to tell him, because someone could slip, and it IS important for them to know that you've had a previous pregnancy. I know that secrets can cause nothing but trouble, but I also know that I have some I'll never tell, so it's tough to advise another to tell.
At any rate, I hope you have a happy, healthy pregnancy and a wonderful baby!
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2006-09-24 04:56:30 · answer #1 · answered by LazlaHollyfeld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a few people leaving answers like "tell your boyfriend, honesty is the best policy" etc, but look, sometimes a fresh start is the best possible thing that can happen to someone.
There is no reason why your boyfriend needs to know about you previous failed pregnancy. I suggest you go to your doctors alone initially, and say you want complete confidentiality. No health professional will even think twice about that. The doctor will make a series of cryptic comments in your notes that are perfectly understandable to any other health professional but utter gibberish to your boyfirend if he flicks through your notes out of curiosity (when you have a baby your notes are always lying around).
2006-09-24 08:02:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can go to the doctor without the boyfriend just to tell them about your history and let them know how you feel about the situation. It would be confidential.
2006-09-24 04:50:39 · answer #3 · answered by Gone fishin' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Off course he needs to know..Supposed it was the other way around and he asked for a private consultation..Best to start of as you intend to go on..Cos one day he might find out and what are you going to say then
Anyway good luck to u both and hope you hear the patter of little feet soon ..
2006-09-24 06:19:44 · answer #4 · answered by Red 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would make sure your boyfriend is not in the room with you during your initial visit. Then make clear to the nurse that you don't want the information discussed in front of him.
2006-09-24 04:52:58 · answer #5 · answered by CE S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They will discuss your previous history if he's there or not. Reason being they will be more thorough this time so If you dont want him knowing, keep him away when you have your checks with the midwife.
2006-09-24 04:50:17 · answer #6 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They will need to ask those questions, and it is best to be honest, so it sounds like you had better get talking to your boyfriend
2006-09-24 04:50:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your boyfriend need's to know what you're dealing with as much as you do. after all this is not just your child, you're going through this together. honesty is best in any situation but in this one i think it's a must.
2006-09-24 04:52:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋