I have this friend that always likes to wrestle with me. He often gets to close and says odd things. For example he said that he'd suck me for ten bucks and put his head in my crotch. I always have to tell him to get off me. Then he goes into this quite phase like he is seriously thinking about something for a 15 minute period. He always wants me to look at porn with him.
I am asking this question in hopes that I will get help in telling him that I am not like that.
P.S.: He always gets this dissapointed look whenever I speak about my girlfriend. I think that if he wants to be gay he should go for it just not around me. Help me.
2006-09-24 04:34:56 · 21 answers · asked by ? 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I forgot to add that he has a girlfriend. Why me?
2006-09-24 04:38:20 · update #1
He lives with his mother.brother,and little sister.
2006-09-24 04:39:31 · update #2
He may be gay, he may be bi, he may be straight. Who knows? The fact is that he is doing something that makes you very uncomfortable. Tell him to knock it off or the friendship is over with. Then stick to your guns. You have to start being very assertive with this character. No one at any age should have to put up with anything that smacks of sexual abuse from anyone.
2006-09-24 05:45:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is definatly gay, that is a tactic some gays use when trying to find out if their friend or whoever is gay, the wrestling thing, besides he offered to suck you? kinda obvious don't you think. you say he has a girlfriend, well he could be bi. Anyway I would sit down and tell him that you are uncomfortable with the way he is acting, but also tell him you are straight, and if it is true that you don't mind him being gay, and can still stay his friend, tell him that too.
2006-09-24 07:29:02 · answer #2 · answered by Finally home 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, be clear and nice and tell him that you've been feeling unconfortable with that kind of "games". If you really love him (as a friend, of course) just try to listen to him, don't ignore him or something because you'll make him feel extremely bad (I had a similar experience a few months ago and believe me, no one wants to be discriminated by friends nor anyone)... the best thing you can do for your friends is to talk seriously about that topic... perhaps he has a girlfriend because he hasn't got out of the closet, it's so obvious... =) Good luck.
2006-09-24 05:43:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is either gay curious or realizing that he is gay and needs to try things with someone. if you don't want anythng to do with it, just take him aside and tell him. Let him know that he is still a good friend but you are not interested in that stuff. If you let him suck you, you should let him try and then you can compare a bj from a girl and a guy.
2006-09-24 06:55:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he lives at home, he probably needs an outlet, and thats you. He probably hasn't expressed it to anyone else, so he's testing it on you. If your not into it, let him know and then ask him point blank. He may deny it but you already know. Having a girlfriend is a cover. He' not ready to come out but he just wants to try it. You have to make it clear your not down with it. He'll find someone to experiment with.
2006-09-24 05:51:06 · answer #5 · answered by sweetpea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that your friend is gay but he's scared of admitting it you in case you freak out about it. So in a way he's admitting to you that he fancies you by joking about doing things to you etc hoping that he may get a positive response. The reason i think this way is because i did exactly the same thing to my friend in the hopes that she would eventually say that she fancied me back and then we would become a couple.
2006-09-24 05:06:55 · answer #6 · answered by Sunbed 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude he's so gay hes beyond gay.hes got a huge crush on you, if you like him as a friend. just tell him that. if youve been friends for a long time, it shouldnt be that difficult, and its not like you're talking to 5th grader, right? just talk to him like you always have and let him know exactly where you stand. its that simple. im sure he'd expect the same from you....
2006-09-24 06:00:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably gay, but who knows. If he is then he is acting like that because he wants you to reciprocate and that way ya'll can be a couple or whatever it is he has in his head for the two of you.
2006-09-24 06:33:21 · answer #8 · answered by JR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend needs help. Whether he's gay or not, he's violating your comfort zone, and not listening properly to your objections. Depending on his parents, and on your school's (I apologize if you aren't classmates) facilities, I'd see if you can help him get at least one session with some sort of counselor who is understanding about homosexuality.
2006-09-24 04:48:03 · answer #9 · answered by peri_renna 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are hanging around this type of on-going sexual pull-and tug makes me wonder if you are a little, how shall I put this, GAY.
2006-09-24 06:07:16 · answer #10 · answered by Thomas B 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋