My ex dumped me to spread his wings so to speak, he was the love of my life, I cant stop thinking about him but Im with a bloke who worships the ground I walk on, Please give me some sound advice
2006-09-24 04:30:58 · 11 answers · asked by Chunkster 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Year 1993....I was in college...had a boyfriend...then all of a sudden my very first boyfriend contacted me again..............he is now my husband. We have two boys. He was also absent from my life for 6 years (had to finish his education....I had to do the same, too- so the separation was necessary). The difference between your story and mine is that I was not in a happy relationship. We were so not compatible at all! In fact that relationship made me see what I didn't want in my future permanent partner. The same thing happened to my sister, though...her ex came back, but she was in a happy relationship. She met her ex and she told him that she was getting married and very in love with her now husband. Your situation calls to do the same. Sometimes it's better to leave the past in the past to truly appreciate what you have now. Either way.....if you get back with your ex...you will think of the one who worships the ground you walk on....you are with this guy and stay with him....then you will continue thinking of the other who could have been- BUT.....remember the reason why he left you back then.....would he do it again? Will the relationship be based on trust, if you guys hook up again?...as you said here....he "was" the love of your life....is he still? Only you can answer this....it's like choosing between two kinds of chocolate, but are both good quality chocolates?....which one is more likely to get better as it gets older....? These questions can only be answered by you,...so listen to your own gut feeling...this is yours to decide. Make sure whatever your decision is....you leave the one you are with first- instead of cheating on him....because if you ever try to get back with him again- let's say in six years...he will remember what you did to him....and your chances will be slim- maybe even zero.
2006-09-24 05:12:17 · answer #1 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer. The way you worded the question indicates that you do.
Six years is a long time. And there really is no way to turn back time. Nothing would be the same. What constituted "the love of your life", back then probably is not the same now.
Good men are like hens teeth. Soooo hard to find. If you have one who adores you hang on to him. Appreciate him. Don't throw away a six year commitment for something that may not even exist anymore.
2006-09-24 12:16:05 · answer #2 · answered by diane_b_33594 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go back to a guy who took 6yrs to find your worth. Don't leave this guy who worships the ground u walk on. Just think, if u leave this guy and go back to ur ex, then what happens when ur ex finds some or the fault with u again and once again wants to go find some greener pastures. So stay with this guy ur with and forget ur ex.
2006-09-24 11:37:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get into dialogue with your ex, he has already dumped you once, if you were to end your current relationship and resume with your ex what would stop him from dumping you again and putting you back to square one. Stay as you are, very happy with your current partner and don't be tempted by your ex, he has hurt you once and he will hurt you again and you don't deserve that. Just think about it.
2006-09-24 11:37:17 · answer #4 · answered by GaryUKB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer to this...We love bastards.
Im in a similar position...dont know what to tell you that you dont already know....We should stay away and stay with the men that adore us - but can we really do that?
What does your ex want from you? does he want you back or does he want to screw up your head all over again?
Only you can decide wether you are willing to throw your life away over someone who could easily hurt you all over again..but in this life there are no guarantees.
Go with your head, not your heart.
Good luck.x
2006-09-24 11:40:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your ex will just use you again and you will regret it and deep down you know this. he wants you because he cant have you now, but what about when you wanted him ? make a list to help you decide and focus on the bad stuff of your ex and use it to keep you strong and remind yourself why you are not together. and why you are with your new guy.
2006-09-24 11:38:33 · answer #6 · answered by Kunaal T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself first, why your ex is your ex and not a current partner. Would it be fair to yr current partner who has given you 6 yrs of their life, or maybe you are unhappy in this relationship
2006-09-24 11:37:17 · answer #7 · answered by bothalezi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He dumped you - he does not care, he wants to get back because he wants the sex.
2006-09-24 11:57:42 · answer #8 · answered by Tatiana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick with the new guy,you will get over your ex trust me!!!
2006-09-24 11:36:32 · answer #9 · answered by ///\oo/\\\ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay put, do not communicate with your ex. If he left once, he'll do it again, and you won't have anyone.
2006-09-24 11:38:39 · answer #10 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋