HELP!!! my mom is so mean to me. what do i do?

Question

she says that i am seelfish and that all she does is do things for me. but that isnt true. she never lets me do anything with my friendy, or have a good time. i try to be nice to her but she looks at things in a negative way. but my dad lets me do anything i want whae ever i want. what should i do? (my parents are not divorced)

Answer 1

Try to take a different perspective. Too often kids and especially teens feel like they are a victim of horrible parents and that is often not the case.

If you have ever lost her trust in the past, you have to regain that befor you get all of your freedoms back. Show her she can trust you. It also wouldn't be a bad I dea to have a civil conversation about it. Don't try to have the convo after a fight, or when your upset that you are being denied. Have when you both are having a good day maybe even when you are laughing together. And don't bring it up in a way that will kill the mood, be a little more light hearted about the whole thing and show her you are going to listen and think about her point of view just as she should yours. Try to see her perspective.

Answer 2

Approach her like an adult. Talk to her about your relationship with her. What can you do better, what she can do better. It seems that she might be feeling a bit left out of your life now that you are getting older. It's important to remember where Mom's come from. Put yourself in her shoes. If you had lived like she has, would you be like her?
Communication with your family is a big part of growing up. It's important to have the most open communication (and trust) you can have with your most powerful support system...Your parents.
And realize, that you are daddy's little angel, so he is going to let you get away with anything. And your parents probably argue about it too. Your mother is setting boundaries which allow for a healthy childhood. Teaches you how to behave when you don't get your way. Your father is, well, being a pushover.

Just talk to her (and/or both of them). There is something that is missing from your current relationship with them, either it's trust, or maturity, or the fact you haven't done the dishes in a week...whatever it is, remember you are still growing up, and learning. They love you, and are only trying to protect you.

Answer 3

Really take a long hard look at yourself from someone else's eyes and see if you can say the same? Sometimes ourself is the hardest person to really look at. Make sure your honest with yourself and if you are and she not just doing things for you then I wouldn't worry about it. Sometime just criticism is the hardest to accept. Your mom and dad need to stick together on things, this would propably help her feelings also, try showing how much you care about her. Maybe she doesn;t want you like your dad. Pick a flower and give to her or do small things that needs to be done without her having to ask you, this means alot to a person. Try to think of her feelings instead of your own. You will never have anybody love you like your Mom does.(maybe she's not good at showing it) but sometimes we just need and extra hand and understanding.Maybe she is keeping things bottled up inside,try talking to her, maybe money is tight and she is doing without for you and your dad. Sounds like he doesn't communicate or care much about her feelings, Maybe she wants you to better yourself by not letting you do everything you want., To learn life is not always about yourself and what you want..

Answer 4

Your mother has issues that are unresolved.
The problems lies with her, not you.
Talk with your father about how she makes you feel.
He is the one that will help you the most.
When you are comfortable, you may want to talk with your mother about it.
She's not going to be happy but she may not know how you feel.
Imagine her being a 2 year old. Everything in her world is about her. Give it time and be the best person you can be.
Good Luck!

Answer 5

I said a prayer for you today
And know God must have heard-
I felt the answer in my heart
Although He spoke no word!
I didn't ask for wealth or fame
(I knew you wouldn't mind)-
I asked Him to send you treasures
Of a far more lasting kind!
I asked that He'd be near you
At the start of each new day
To grant you health and blessings
And my friendship to share your way!
I asked for happiness for you
In all things great and small-
But it was for His loving care
I prayed the most of all!

By: Kenny P. aka-Cobra

Answer 6

parents only try to protect thier children that is why they tell you know i know right now you dont understand but when ur grown you will understand and whan you are married and have kids youll do the same and theyll be asking the same question u r asking right now good luck

Answer 7

talk to ur mom ask her why she chooses to hurt u at every turn,see what happens from there.my problems are kind of similar but the only thing i do is talk to some of friends about my situation and they help me through my problem to the best of their ability try it see if works for u too.

Answer 8

she's just looking out for you.. she probally dosn't want you to do some bad things she has done.. why don't you ask her about her past.. and try to reasure her that you are mature enough to not get in to troble..I am sure she will listen

Answer 9

She may be suffering from depression. Talk to your dad and see if he can talk her into getting evaluated. You might also try family counselling. good luck.

Answer 10

Tell your mom you love her, and you love your friends as well. Everybody needs to have friends in their lives.
You're lucky your dad is more understanding and mature.