I have a "brother" i have been trying to help. I am now in UK and he also now wants to come, but his family is assholes and couldnt care bout him. I said it would take me a while, and now he not interested in even talking to me and does not have the decency to answer calls or anything, and it actually hurts because been looking after him back home for the last 4 years - now I here and he cuts me cold. Only time he calls is when he needs something to be sent to him - he 18 !
2006-09-24 04:24:32 · 5 answers · asked by skorrorocks 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
u see..i think u had looked after him very well...thats why he miss u a lot..and as u said about his family whom u called as assholes must not be caring him..so he must be feeling very lonely and sad...moreover since he is 18 he may be thinking in such a dimension that nobody wants me...everybody thinks about themselves..since u r not able to take him there he may be thinking that even u forgot him when u went to london...but when it comes to buying things u r the only one who he can ask to..others dont even care him..u looked after him four years...may be with that freedom he is calling u...all he needs is some love and care..and at this point of time all that u can give him is also the same...if u think u need more help...u r free to chat with me..
2006-09-24 04:33:17 · answer #1 · answered by me_who2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
blood is thicker then water, if your friend is using you he doesnt sound like a very good friend i had friends use me for years and years abuse me in every way possible emotionally i mean, i used to lend them money thinking i am helping them, one was a prostitute and then he begged me to help him out of a bad relationship as he was going back to prostitution i lent him the money and soon after he threw it back in my face when it came to paying it back. I soon realised that in this world you should help people but sometimes being too kind can really get you taken advantage of and used and just end up with more heartache then its worth, when you are the one who is actually trying to help someone. I ditched my loser friend, who i knew for like 11 years, and I am all the better for it. My friend used to call me for years and only to tell me about his problems he hardly asked how i was, and he knew it. My advice is set your friend straight and if he crosses you and acts in this manner again you seriously need to check what kind of friend this person is going to be to you. You need someone that can treat you as a equal and not as a one way friend and actually appreciates you for helping them and what you do for them as a person.
2006-09-24 04:30:56 · answer #2 · answered by Kunaal T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he feels hopeless and abandoned. He's 18, he's probably very impatient as well. Keep trying to call him so that he knows you haven't forgotten him.
2006-09-24 04:27:55 · answer #3 · answered by Mommy2Liam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do something only for the return, then you will get back exactly what you got. If you state your intentions up front then there are no surprises,
2006-09-24 04:29:17 · answer #4 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is your brother then his family are your family!!!!!
2006-09-24 04:30:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋