I'm curious and want to meet someone to experiment with but want to avoid a dangerous/freaky person. Where do people like me find this opportunity? Any recs on what the approach should be?
2006-09-24 04:11:51 · 14 answers · asked by windintreesound 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
There is a different answer to this question depending on many things, including your age, your socio-economic condition, your previous sexual experience and where you live.
Guessing that you are a white male, in good health, with a steady job, aged about 21-25 years, living in the mid-west of America, and not currently married or in a co-habiting relationship with a female.
Chances are you already know some guys who are gay and that you like, and feel comfortable with. You may not be aware they're gay, however. The best thing to do is to let others whom you trust know about your interest, even at the risk of telling them something you might think would damage your relationship.
Even if they aren't gay, they probably know who is, and can help you connect. It's more about being social (and especially, not being anonymous about your interests). Your instinct is to remain 'in-the-closet' about your desire, and this is the very thing that's holding you back from some really cool life-experiences.
As humans, the one thing that truly differentiates us from other life on this planet, is our ability to control our instincts. Your awareness and assertiveness are important in overcoming your fear.
On the other side of the terrible fear is incredible happiness, I assure you (and a little sadness, too, I'm afraid). The good parts more than make up for the bad.
And don't listen to the holy-rollers either. They don't want anyone to be happy.
2006-09-25 10:39:26 · answer #1 · answered by Todd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try a local interest group with gay members. There are quite a few gay interest groups that revolve around sports, mutual interests, and activities.
If you do go to a gay bar, try bringing a friend. It'll be much more comfortable that going alone. Both the Internet and bars have their fair share of freaks so I'd advise talking to the person before you jump into the sack.
2006-09-24 15:33:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already are gay you just dont realize it. you dont have to look for an encounter. a gay person will come to you. be careful like you said there are a lot of freaks out there. also aids is also.
2006-09-24 11:16:06 · answer #3 · answered by duc602 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just look for a guy on-line that likes to help other men experiment.
2006-09-24 22:09:43 · answer #4 · answered by arjento_ia 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can try on-line dating or gay bars. There are normal people on line that can help you as well as in bars
2006-09-24 14:01:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just smile in a gay bar.
2006-09-24 11:13:09 · answer #6 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should look for GLBT Clubs and probably try to find someone there.If you are getting a sense that someone is gross steer clear of them.
2006-09-24 11:13:54 · answer #7 · answered by Kay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A straight guy wouldn't do that.
You would be considered an inexperienced bi-curious at best.
2006-09-26 10:17:31 · answer #8 · answered by Dustin Lochart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're wanting a gay experience, you aren't straight. bisexual, maybe, but definitely not straight!
2006-09-24 14:59:41 · answer #9 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one, be honest with yourself and stop calling yourself a straight guy. If you're sexually attracted to men, you ain't straight.
2006-09-24 11:37:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋