We have had many good times, parties, camping etc over the years. His wife has been very nice to me, friendly outgoing and helpful and so has he.
One night she invited me out for drinks, and to make a long story short things got out of hand, the alcohol I believe came into play.
Everything seemed fine after that and then a month later things changed. She wanted space which I totally understand but that she didn;'t want to end it this way. She didn't want me to just fade away.
I care about this womans happiness and well being deeply and have had very little contact with either one of them,at her request , which hurts because they are my closest friends.
I do not feel good about what happened that evening and have been paying the emotional price ever since.
What should I do?
2006-09-24 04:00:44 · 6 answers · asked by p m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This "couple" friendship you have with your friends has changed forever. You are going to have to accept that. Give the woman some room and do not push this at all. If you do, she may end up telling her husband what transpired and then your friendship will truly be over with. Protect her and keep quiet. If that means not socializing with the couple anymore, then so be it. You are going to have to move on, no matter how terrible that seems right now.
Rule you have learned: Do not ever socialize alone with a friend's wife or find yourself alone with her. That in of itself does not look good.
2006-09-24 05:57:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give her enough time to settle down about it. I think your friendship can be salvaged but I think you two need to agree that you cannot hang out just the two of you anymore.
2006-09-24 11:05:50 · answer #2 · answered by BLANK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friendship and sex never mix, especially when one is married. You are screwed, so forget the whole thing. It was a lesson in life that may be hard to swallow, but that is it. She played you.
2006-09-24 11:06:19 · answer #3 · answered by thebushman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one thing that be said with certainty here is that your friendship will NEVER be the same again.
You say you care about this woman's happiness. I assume you care about yours too. Time to "fade away," to borrow your phrase.
And next time, if such a wonderful friendship should come your way, be more careful.
2006-09-24 12:04:15 · answer #4 · answered by Hermit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You betrayed your wife's trust when you messed around with your friend. I can not blame your wife for not wanting you to have anything to do with this woman.
You made the bed...enjoy sleeping in it.
2006-09-24 11:04:58 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nasty -
2006-09-24 11:20:42 · answer #6 · answered by ttbird117 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋