i would like to mark the day somehow, would this be wrong thanks
2006-09-24 03:31:30 · 12 answers · asked by Jane N 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Sorry to hear of your loss.
I too lost a baby 2 years ago in october. I still feel terribly sad especially on the lead up to the anniversary. I think it is important to remember your baby always. I do so by lighting a candle each year. October is baby loss awareness month. You can visit the SANDS website where you can talk to people online & even light a virtual candle with a message to your baby which I think is really sweet.
You could also release a balloon in memory of your baby which alot of people tend to do.
I know many people who have lost children & have been told it takes many years to heal the pain but each year gets a little easier. You never forget.
My thoughts are with you.
2006-09-24 03:45:51 · answer #1 · answered by vic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure it is normal for you to feel down, a miscarriage is a loss of a life, so you are still grieving for the child you have lost, when someone has an abortion they can feel like you do, every anniversary that comes around. To mark the day would be wonderful, what is right for you, is right for you, there is no right or wrong way to grieve. You may never forget, but it will become easier to deal with as time passes. You could ring the Miscarriage Association it will be in Yellow Pages. Best wishes
2006-09-24 04:12:23 · answer #2 · answered by tinderbox1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I am really sorry for your loss, this must be really difficult for you. Of course it is normal for you to feel down, its always difficult when anyone suffers a loss like this. Everybody deals with grief in their own way and if marking the day in your own way helps you deal with things then there is absolutely no reason why you shouldnt do this.
I had a misscarriage about four years ago, I was carrying twins and they would have been four years old in November. I now have two gorgeous children and I wouldnt have changed what happened because that would mean that my children would never have been born. I believe that things happen for a reason and we just have to deal with it in our own way. It gets easier with time. Good Luck.
2006-09-24 09:11:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal so why would it be wrong?
You should deal with the day the way you feel you should. No-one can tell you how you should be feeing or how you should react.
Grief is so personal.
Do something that would mean something special to you.
You may want to visit a cemetary and place flowers in the childrens part of it.
You may want to spoil yourself & make the day special that way.
Whatever you choose, it should work for you.
Good luck :-)
2006-09-24 03:36:00 · answer #4 · answered by MISS B.ITCH 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its normal to feel this waqy. u prob thinking wot if this and wot if that but life goes on. u cant forget it and no doubt u wont ever but ur grieving at the loss but hopefully, if u keep strong and keep going on ur daily business, then u hopefully wont feel so down. keep urself busy and try not to get too deep a thought coz then u will think all sorts and feel depressed even more. take care hun and hope u feel better. i knw its hard but pls keep strong.take it easy and hope u have a full recovery.
2006-09-24 03:47:32 · answer #5 · answered by allgiggles1984 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss. what i would recommend is make a date with your friends or partner to do something. (don't drink it will make you feel a hell of a lot worse) . what ever that you decide to do it wont be an easy day. all the best for the day and the future :)xxxx
2006-09-24 21:43:52 · answer #6 · answered by hayley50 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not at all, youve been through a really rough time, i know it wont mean too much but im sorry that its happend, and if you want to mark the day then you should do what ever you think is going to make you feel better. good luck take care
2006-09-24 03:37:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
of course it is normal to be feeling down about it.....and it would be nice to mark the day....maybe plant a tree in memory of ur baby so whenever u look out the window ur baby will forever be in your life getting bigger and bigger everyday.
hope i helped.
2006-09-24 03:39:49 · answer #8 · answered by I_Luv_P!NK 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its normal to feel like that, i also had a miscarraige and i found it really hard. I went to the local church, said a prayer and lit a candle. Hope this helps
2006-09-24 04:07:16 · answer #9 · answered by julie m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure i think its ok to Mark the day, but hun, your gonna have to let go...because if you let it get to you as much as it sounds like it is...your gonna go into a depression your not gonna be able to get out of...and thats just not good for you or anyone around you...sure think of the day, pray about it and then go on with your day...
2006-09-24 03:40:14 · answer #10 · answered by *<3_Gizmo* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋