My mother justifies the beating me when i was in school, telling that her husband was not earning and she has bad relations with others in the family. At that time it was a joint family.
1. She never allowed me to play.
2. wakes up to study at 4 and the beating continued till i go out to school
3. She was lazy pick things at home, and used to make me wash the clothes and utensils.
4. During V to VII clas she used to punish me like bending on knees, and sitting in a chair position leaning to the wall
5. she used to beat me with end of the belt to the head and it used to bleed, and my father encouraging her that she was making me study.
6. There was no play time, As soon as i come from school she used to make me study till 8 pm and forced me to sleep.
7. There where no outdoor trips or vacation trips at all.
8. When i couldnt understand her harsh language and do the work she used to beat me up on the head.
9. Not a day has gone when she had not abused me
2006-09-24 03:03:10 · 6 answers · asked by donald 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No, that is not parenting. True parenting is about finding a punishment/reward system that works for your child and develops the child into a functioning, productive member of society. For example, when my daughter was growing up she loved sports (and still does), and I made the sports a punishment or reward depending on how she conducted herself. If she did well, she could play as many sports as she wanted if she didn't, I would not let her play for a specified amount of time. I wanted her to excel at sports and hated removing her from a team, but it was the best motivation I could find for her. She very rarely had to be removed from anything. It's very important to be a part of your child's life and to question where they go, what they do, but also talk to them and let them know they can come to you with any questions. My daughter ended up getting an athletic scholarship and has done very well on her own.
Are you 18 or will you be soon?
2006-09-24 03:16:14 · answer #1 · answered by alis_n_1derland 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man oh man, this is some serious S**T . i had quite a bad childhood myself ( i wont elaborate) but this is much much worse, i need to ask you do you think it's ok? NO!!! no one in there right mind think any kind of abuse toward children is right! I need to tell you this, and i dont want you to take it the wrong way!! But i think you still have some serious issues with your childhood if you are posting a question like this!, Being someone who has gone through therapy, and knowing the great benefits is can have, i really think you need to try it out!
A childhood like that changes your whole life, and in a way your mother will STILL be controling your life . She made you who you are, and you needent suffer because of her, !!!! SMJ
2006-09-24 03:14:01 · answer #2 · answered by Sara mary jane 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some people should be born without reproductive organs. Get some help like I advised before. And so did a lot of people. Quit going over it again and again. If you repeat yourself too much, we're going to stop believing you.
2006-09-24 03:05:11 · answer #3 · answered by kitten lover3 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you now? Are you out of that household? If not, report her to your local Department of Family Services.
If you are out, I'm glad but now it is time to get yourself some counselling to deal with this situation. You don't want to be a repeat abuser which is what usually happens.
2006-09-24 03:06:03 · answer #4 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is a such thing as to much punishment and that is . Well i hope you are away from all of that now and if not i would report it.
2006-09-24 03:09:18 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no
2006-09-24 03:11:03 · answer #6 · answered by ang 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋