how do u get over your best friends death and u cant sleep at night cause i cry every night thinking about him and why it had to be him so i dont get any sleep cause im sad and i want him back hear:'(
2006-09-24 02:59:42 · 15 answers · asked by dramaqueen111111111111111 1 in News & Events ➔ Other - News & Events
i would react like u......
2006-09-24 03:02:55 · answer #1 · answered by aditi 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, I'm so sorry for your loss. I went through something like that when I was a teen. It was my best friend, and also my dad. I was 15.
I know you want him back. But would he want you to be so sad? He knew how much your friendship meant to both of you, I'm sure. I'm also sure he would want you to go on. Do things that the two of you could have done together. And keep his memory with you when you do them. It will be like you are doing them together, even though he isn't there.
Grief is a strange thing. And it's hard to understand why someone you care about isn't there anymore. But the best way to deal with it is one day at a time. If that's too big a chunk of time, deal with it one hour at a time.
Talk to your parents, other friends you both shared, a trusted adult. Let them help you through it. Don't try to be "brave" and go it alone. Talk to his parents.
I am assuming you are a teen, from the way your question is worded. If I'm wrong, I apologize. But even if you aren't, don't try to go it alone. There are others who are hurting, too. Help each other deal with the loss of your friend.
Hope this helps a little. It will get better.
2006-09-24 10:11:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. Death isnt easy especially when you loose someone you really cared about. What your going through is normal...your mourning.....so if you feel like crying ....then go ahead and cry.....tears do help.....in time the feeling of mourning will leave....its different for all people....but it will lessen over time. Then once you pass this period you will have time to reflect back on all the good times you two shared and those tears will be replaced with a smile.
2006-09-24 10:11:51 · answer #3 · answered by Lewis S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should probally get some form of counselling, So you can have some closure, Think of the good things he did. Not how he died. Maybe make a scrap book with your memories and the way you are feeling about him, put in some photos,
you should really see a counseller to try and deal with this loss, have time for yourself and don't force yourself to have another best friend, If he has family, try to help them deal with their loss aswell.
xxxxx
2006-09-24 10:03:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As lame as it sounds, time does heal the wounds. I've been there to many times, sad to say. While I was a teenager I lost a few friends. The first one was the hardest, it me the hardest. I use to write letters to him, it was my way to deal with the pain, I still have those letters. I still miss him so much but I can think about him now and smile, the tears do go away. Hang in there, you will be fine in time.
2006-09-24 10:29:09 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend did get killled once she died in a violent car accident on her way to my house, it takes time to get over it all bad things seem to haunt for ages but it sounds corny but truly time is a great healer but u have to get by one day at a time. About a week after her death we held a wake like the Irish do we cried we laughed and it helped. Sex also helps.
2006-09-24 10:15:05 · answer #6 · answered by kiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st off im sorry to hear that this has happened.
I know that really no matter what ppl say on here its not really gonna help,bc no matter what u will still think of him and as u should. Try to focus on happy and fun times u spent together,the 1st time u do that tho,dont be afraid to cry. Cry as much as u need to. I used to fight with myself over my grandmothers death as of "why god" "why are old ppl still living who arent deserving" blah blah blah,some many ?'s to ask over death.
In all honesty it will get better over time,let things fall into there own place and go on with ur life,and let yourself grow from this.
2006-09-24 10:15:24 · answer #7 · answered by melissa f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You learn that you will never get over the loss of your friend. You will just get a a point where you will accept what has happened. There will be days that are better than others, but realize that your friend would have wanted you to get on with your life.
Good luck dealing with your loss.
2006-09-24 10:02:59 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a mother who lost a child after 21 years I know how you feel,and as time goes by it is a little easier (not much) try to think of all the good time's you had / even some of the bad,and now you will see how dumb they were and you can laugh at them .I bet he would want you to go on with your life,and be happy. hope this helps.
2006-09-24 10:24:11 · answer #9 · answered by mawma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join a grief group. Inquire of local churches, or your community counselling service. There are stages that you MUST go through as a healthy person, but the key phrase is "go through" and not get stuck, so that you finally remember him but can go on.
Don't isolate yourself!
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Grief
Please use the grief links at the end of this site tp help yourself and others, and while you are helping others, you will be helping yourself!!!
My best wishes!!! Cry, and then go on! He wants you to!! I want you to! You must want you to, too!!
2006-09-24 10:16:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is very serious problem, it's too difficult to ercover from such a shock you should try t engage yourself into more and more activities try to forget him spend more time with other freinds .
MAKE UR BEST FREIND ANY ONE OUT OF THEM.
Hope god does not give such shock to humans.
2006-09-24 10:19:52 · answer #11 · answered by Dhr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋