ok, I need some honest answers. Perferably from some one who has done this to thier spouse before. I asked a question about the online love affair thing a while ago, and you guys gave me good advice. I decide to stay with him, and look deep inside myself for the answers. Here is what I did. I told him flat out that he was really hurting me by spending soooo much time talking to his online "FRIEND". That I could no longer set and watch him say I Love U to her, and send her love songs, and be so dayum loving with her, while ignoring me and his son. I told him in my mind, it felt just like watching him make love to another woman, emotionaly and physically. He understands that seeing this truely hurts me. I told him to either go to HER, or stay with me, that if he continued the online thing I would leave him because i'm tierd of feeling betrayed.I never got an answer from him. The last 5 days have been heaven again, why don't I trust him yet?He still has HER im info,and stays up late.
2006-09-24 02:57:30 · 9 answers · asked by easydoesit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I dont know who gave you the advice of staying with him. But if he wants to pretend to care how you feel,then he going to stop doing this for a few days and then be right back at it again. And i dont know why you would put up with that ****. Because you have a kid together please dont use that as an excuse for staying with him. If the wife,the mom is not happy then noone will be happy in the house. You dont want you child to see mommy not happy all the time do you??? I think he will never stop doing what hes doing because he knows you will not leave him. But i really think you should step back and think is your life going to get any better this way?? No its not. You deserve to be with someone you can completly trust. And a man who respects you as his woman. This jerk doesnt deserve you. Please for your own sanity move on.
2006-09-24 03:06:01 · answer #1 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truely loves you he will delete her information and get back on track with his relationship with you. If he doesn't then leave and leave soon. You can do so much better. Would he like it if you were talking with some guy online and telling him that you love him and talking with him everyday and staying up late at night without him. I don't think he would like it very much. I wish you all the best and remember with what is going on and if he doesn't stop you have to think of your child FIRST.
2006-09-24 04:30:36 · answer #2 · answered by Sexy-n-Hot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I decided to stay with my husband.....and that is all I will say on this forum.
This decision is up to you, building Trust will be hard on his part because it is going to take time for you to get over the Emotional Adultery.
If this is the only thing he has done, consider yourself lucky, love your husband, and in time the "thoughts" will subside, but I would always be "aware".
2006-09-24 03:02:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I advise you to get some help or counseling, because right now he might be just being very careful not to let you notice he continues with it or not, maybe he doesn't realize that it could really ruin your relationship.
Maybe with some counseling he might get the picture clearer and see what he wants in hi life.
2006-09-24 03:10:56 · answer #4 · answered by MS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its still only been 5 days. And if he doesnt plan on speaking to her, he doesnt need her im info. Honestly, I wouldnt be wasting my time. Theres no reason for you to feel like crap bc hes ignoring you, especially when its due to him giving everything to another woman.
2006-09-24 03:04:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your gut feelings, he is still in contact with her and my best guess is its at least an emotional affair. Its cheating on you no matter what he says.
Any time he is spending chatting with her is time he is stealing or cheating you out of in your relationship. Any time he spends thinking of her is the same thing, its emotional cheating.
2006-09-24 03:09:13 · answer #6 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell him to delete and stop with that online friendship. i can't imagine how he can do like that and writing he loves her... tell him. then he has to choose. u don't like him to talk with her. and nothing more to talk about. he loves u he will stop with it.
2006-09-24 03:06:53 · answer #7 · answered by kolo molo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trust me on this once a cheater always a cheater it doesnt get any better and he wont break away from his new found lust.
2006-09-24 03:01:25 · answer #8 · answered by mark d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him this one chance and see where it goes!!!
2006-09-24 03:09:20 · answer #9 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋