What do you expect your roles and responsibilities to be now that you are assuming new roles.
2006-09-24 02:47:42 · 6 answers · asked by L.A. Scene 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
We have that setup and have had for years.
He does all the dishes, and keeps up with the kid's schedule and activities. He does the laundry, and sometimes, if I leave a list does the grocery shopping. I prefer to do the cooking, unless we have gone to one of the Super Supper places and gotten a bunch of meals put together already. I really prefer to do the shopping if I have the time.
He is responsible for pool maintenance. We both work in the yard, usually when I am off and we can work together, as many projects require more than one person. He opens all the bills and keeps up with it , gives it to me in organized fashion, all ready to go, and I write the checks (simply because his handwriting is illegible) and he files the paperwork. Plus, that keeps us both up on the finances.
He does heavy lifting, and I do the creative thinking. He is an electronics and engineering wizard (degrees in them) and fixes almost everything that needs to be fixed.
The first three years were the hardest. He does not keep the house as tidy as I would like. If any two people live together, one is always neater than the other, by at least some degree. We agreed on a level that is acceptable to me, and manageable by him. If I want it neater than that, I take it upon myself to go that extra mile, but mostly find that I can live with this slightly more cluttered environment, so long as I keep the kitchen and my bedroom relatively straight. I am not able to be at home as much as we would like. Don't kid yourself, there will be tough times, but look at this as a partnership as much as a marriage. We are already planning our dream retirement home, although that is quite a way in the future.
I was surprised at how long it took us to develop full trust in each other, probably that three years. But we have earned and reinforced each others trust. We are lucky in that where he is weak in one area, I am stronger and vice versa. In areas where we are both not so strong, like disciplining the child, we have talked it out, have a strategy and work together, always presenting a united front, never disagreeing about discipline in front of her. We do disagree about some things and discuss our disagreements in a constructive and mature way, without name calling, yelling or sarcasm, and we do so in front of the child, if she is there, so that she can see how this works.
It is now so delightful a life, I cannot imagine any other or any better. Best wishes, be creative and mature in how you face the differences and problems, and you will be fine.
2006-09-24 03:12:46 · answer #1 · answered by finaldx 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it's quite simple..if he's assuming the role of "househusband" then he has to do the "housework"...most people dont understand that taking care of the home is really a tough job, because there's always something to do...trust me, i've done both, and i'd rather go punch someone's time clock..lol..good luck with your arrangement. btw...the breadwinner, does just that, make the money, pay the bills, etc,and whatever else is agreed upon between the 2
2006-09-24 02:54:44 · answer #2 · answered by Annette 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i have done this and basically he does all that you did,,if it was fair you did all you did before you went to work full time the same surely is true now he is at home,,it works both ways,,,,its not a man woman thing,,you both have two legs,two arms and one brain,if you can do it so can he.just swap and see how it goes,,,(btw my hubby hated it and was rubbish at it too) BUT we had the option to swich back,you may not so for all intents and porposes,,,,,'where,s the hoover love'
2006-09-24 02:54:50 · answer #3 · answered by lex 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would assume that all the responsibilities would have been in place way before this ever took place.
2006-09-24 02:53:25 · answer #4 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen men can never do what a women do! They can try but you will always have to go behind him and do it correctly, just b prepared he will try to do what you do you know cleaning cooking washing shopping but he will need help to do it correctly I hope you have someone who is willing to learn from you
2006-09-24 02:59:39 · answer #5 · answered by ttbird117 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't care because I would actually see him change the twins diapers....lol.
2006-09-24 03:09:11 · answer #6 · answered by Donna 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋