I have been having this fantasy of my wife doing this hot young stud. I am not very well endowed (short & thin), and I know I don't do much to satisfy her. I can tell she is fustrated with my size. Anyway, the thought of her doing a guy with a 'man size package' and not a tiny one like mine is kind of a turn on. should i tell her?
2006-09-24 02:41:44 · 32 answers · asked by Steve J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sure, sexual inhabition is what makes a sex life good or bad. You should feel free to tell her whatever makes you horny, and she should do the same....you know, if she isn't happy with your size, there are toys that u can bring into the mix.....never be affraid to experiment sexually
2006-09-24 02:45:14 · answer #1 · answered by ndussere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bringing another person into a relationship isn't going to save your marriage, only make it worse. And if she was that unsatisfied as you say she would have been gone already so you must make her happy in some way, there is more to sex then a huge penis, the old saying it's not the size of the ship it's how you sail it, there are tons of martial aids out there both of you should agree and try those out. It's not a fantasy it's guilt on your behalf, be comfortable with yourself this is who you are, if you become more confident more likely you will satisfy her.
2006-09-24 02:49:50 · answer #2 · answered by Ali_Kay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If i were you i wouldn't. Its only a fantasy and many poeple 99.99% have fantasies now or then. There is no point in putting up the subject if you don't want her to think about the fact ou your size etc.
It never helped me when i told what i was thinking to my man.
More over why dont you try to surprise her with other things. Try to do your best in bed, maybe read some tips on the internet, surprise her with breakfast in bed, do some errands for her and listen to her as often as you can.
Good luck
2006-09-24 02:58:20 · answer #3 · answered by Rody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your wife...but be careful making assumptions that she is not happy or satisfied. You run the risk of discovering that, 1) not only does she NOT feel this way, but 2) she could be appalled that you would tolerate or allow her intimate with another, thereby igniting concern or thoughts that you may secretly wish or desire another. Does that make sense?
Benefits: Talking with your partner about your fantasy may enhance your sex lives. Discussing fantasies does lend itself to excitement, which could be a boost in your own sexual intimacy with your wife.
A fantasy is an imagined event or sequence of mental images, usually fulfilling a wish or psychological need of some sort. Having a fantasy is normal, but the moment it converts into reality, brace for that thrill to pass too.
2006-09-24 02:53:31 · answer #4 · answered by lovemcss 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NEVER ,EVER, give the impression that bringing another person into a marriage is acceptable,,it is a fine line to tread saying you get turned on by the thought and then giving her the opportunity to do it and fall for another man because you didnt mind sharing her,,us women love a bit of jealousy and to say you have no objections,,no,,scrap that,,,you WANT her to do it is not good at all,get down to ann summers or the like and kit yourself out in something larger to please her,,this is your fantasy not hers and if you do insist on her doing this it will be your own fault if she wanders off with another man who would fight for his woman and not give her to anyone else who just happened to be rather more well endowed. she may like your size so dont use your own fantasies to make your problem,hers
2006-09-24 03:18:14 · answer #5 · answered by lex 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No need, I think. The size does not matter, but the fore play and the act should be like one to satisfy her. You will know by experience. If both of you love each other and understand each other well, this should not be a problem. Discuss with your lady and take further action.
2006-09-24 02:46:39 · answer #6 · answered by Electric 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Steve no way do you tell your wife, she would be mortified. Hun the female vigina is designed to take a man of any size and its not really the size its what you do with it.
Giving sexual pleasure to each other should be a great enough turn on for you.Massage her with perfumed oils, play soft music and then explore her body. hun the heat coming from your bed with be electrifying.
2006-09-24 02:59:03 · answer #7 · answered by foxymoma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think about it a lot more. Is the turn-on the sex between your wife and this stud, or are you fantasizing you are in actuality the stud? Big difference. If you are imagining the acts as if it is you, that is one thing. If you are desiring the guy, and turned on by him, you may be expressing your bisexual feelings.
2006-09-24 02:52:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I question if this is something that you would like to watch for your own satisfaction, and not so much hers?
Having her be with another man is not going to solve your relationship "sexually". My husband is "not" well endowed
either; yet he can satisfy me in more ways then one.
Did you know that more then 80% of women *** from stimulation of "touching" then actual penetration. Use your imagination and be creative with her. Use toy's, your hands etc.... to satisfy her needs while you are satisfying your need as well.
Having her with another man his going to open doors in your relationship that may never close!
It's not the SIZE that matters, is the man that can please a women with creativity.
2006-09-24 02:58:38 · answer #9 · answered by E 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, do not tell her. She may see it as an open invitation to seek sex elsewhere. Just treat her like a lady and if she is not satisfied with you because of your size, she is a very shallow person.
2006-09-24 02:46:34 · answer #10 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋