I need to know how to be a stronger woman in my life and my relationship. How to stop letting people run over me, and how to look like and act like a woman.
2006-09-24 02:38:58 · 12 answers · asked by t ee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'd have to say that building your confidence, is a must, if you wish to become stronger in life in general. Not just in relationships.
Try some self-help books. However corny some may seem, they might provide you with some valuable insight into ways of thinking and training of the mind.
Helping yourself, before you "crash and burn" and become bitter and resentful, is recommended.
Speak up, and be heard. If someone does you wrong, let them know about it, and tell them why it upset you so much. There are ways to deliver your point across, without hostility.
Good luck on your quest for confidence, stability, and strength
2006-09-24 02:50:28 · answer #1 · answered by Medicated Harmony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While you are looking for advice from other women I could not help but put mine in. It would seem that I an attracted to strong or stronger women. I am afraid it fills the gap I have in my own personality.
No doubt you already look and act like a woman. However to be strong is a relative term. There are women that are very strong....to the point they take nothing from anyone and steer their own lives no matter what. That strength however comes at a price. You must be willing to give up some things that may have been appealing to you because it may take away from some of that perceived strength.
The first thing you need to do is decide what this really means to you. None of us are an island and we must be able to compromise now and then to have relationships. However....some of us.....compromise far more than others. I think if that is you it is done out of one or two things. You don't like to fight for you or you feel guilty if you put you first.
Decide what this really means to you. In any given interaction give it a test. What is going on? Is what is being ask of me not in my best interest? How do I feel about this....for me. Forget about the other person....you can bet they are taking care of themselves.
It is possible to be strong and yet helpful at the same time. But you must always think....is this what I want or does someone else want this? Does this make sense for me. And most important you must begin to initiate where you want to go. You make things happen not wait for others to do it.
Being strong is different for every person. If you are not now it will take a complete change in your personality so you must look at it like you have gone on a diet. It won't change overnight but in time it will.
My personal opinion is that you are a very special lady. You have compassion…you care deeply about others…..and if you could begin living the life you want there would be no stopping you. What a combination.
2006-09-24 03:12:05 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon I know it is hard to see yourself as weak but now that you notice the problem fix it, you should get in the mirror and really love yourself find what you like and go from there nothing negative all positves, I would start small first maybe a new hairdo new makeup anything to make your self feel better once you fix one thing then work on something else, get into yourself and you will find strength, I felt really weak and sorry for myself but I started getting into myself more and more and I feel so much better! It will take some time but you will see improvement! One more thing stop calling your self weak right now you are not weak, just going through something good luck
2006-09-24 02:57:27 · answer #3 · answered by ttbird117 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In actual fact, a woman is a strong female who can stand up for herself at all times and be independent. In other to gain this in ur relationship, you need to try and be gentle at all times and make sure you do not let people take you for granted as you are worth something. Make sure you earn respect from people by respecting urself and others and be in groups that empower women and give them the courage to act like what they are. WOMEN.
2006-09-24 02:53:35 · answer #4 · answered by tyana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can be a stronger woman in life and realtionships by realizing your own worth. if you tell yourself and believe that you are a good person, smart and worthy of love, you will start to stand up for yourself and your feelings. you will begin to realize that you are not obligated to put up with anything from anyone. and if they don't like it, they can leave. more often than not, others with respect you for respecting yourself. it is a quality to aspire to. and embrace your femininity. wear some makeup every day. do your hair and nails and wear some subtle pretty perfume. shave. wear heels. don't curse or smoke and pour your beer into a glass if you must drink it. speak deliberately and don't rush. smile and flatter your man whenever you can, but not if it isn't warranted. don't be a doormat! stand up for yourself and respect yourself and you will be suprised at how much happier you will be.
2006-09-24 02:49:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People don't run over you actually...you run over yourself. You don't need any extra energy to look and act like a woman. You already have IT. Start living IT. Open your inner eyes to see what God's plaved on your inside, and don't get influenced by people but influence people with what you are!
2006-09-24 03:01:44 · answer #6 · answered by Oyesiri E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only a doormat if you lay down a be one. If you can not or will not stand up for your self who will?And the way you stop this when your mind is saying NO this is wrong, say it out loud and clear. If you do not value your self why should any one else.
2006-09-24 03:02:10 · answer #7 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say no more often
Value yourself
Know that you are important - even when others appear to disagree
Accept that you have opionions and a right to assert them
respect yourself and your body. If a man just wants sex.. out the door with him, you are worth more than that!
hope those help!
2006-09-24 02:51:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dear have confidence in yourself and everything will follow
2006-09-24 03:54:00 · answer #9 · answered by pea_1208 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to some of your friends and they will help you!!!!
2006-09-24 02:44:27 · answer #10 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋