Hello, due to work, sometime flirt to get sales job done,discover sms by wife.she want divored now.how?

Question

Actually i really never cheat. But as i in business and sales. sometime need some flirting and cheeky words to get the job done.
like to gain female favour to close deal especially most purchaser is woman. the woman sms me baby and saw by my wife. she so upset that she want to divored me.
not into any relationship at all. what should i do now?

Answer 1

Try a new sales tactic. Not only is it disrespectful and inappropriate to use that kind of language and those gestures to women in the workplace, it can get you in trouble if you do it to the wrong person, and she gets offended. Personally, if a salesperson ever tried to cross any lines at work with me, he would be kicked out immediately and reported to his supervisor.

Answer 2

Talk to her. Find out why is this a cause for divorce. Most every married person will flirt in some form are fashion any anyone who says they don't are lying. Most people would not follow through with any flirt but flirting should have nothing to do with your relationship with your wife and she needs to understand that. Cheating and flirting are 2 totally different things. Maybe she has done something that now she has an excuse to ask for a divorce now that she caught you doing this. Maybe it would pay for her to come on here and look at some of the real problems and she would see that what you did is nothing compaired to what you did.

Answer 3

You dont have to flirt to make a sale thats just you making an excuse to do it. And if you feel you have to flirt to make the sale you need to find a new career.

I am in sales as well and yes being friendly with women helps things along but there is a line and I don't cross it. You can go out to a bar with them to discuss deals, buy them drinks / meal, give them a ride there but that doesn't mean you need them to call them baby.

Your going to have to do a ton of apologizng, buying flowers and your going to have to not flirt to keep your wife.

And cheating isn't always having sex with someone as you seem to think. Most women will tell you that cheating is bad but "emotional cheating" is also just as bad. Would you have an issue if your wife put on a sexy outfit to take a good looking male client out? What if she got a sms the next morning saying "Baby you were great last night"? I doubt you would be ok with that.. ..

Answer 4

I don't know if you realize it or not but women are not stupid. That kind of behavior is really transparent and can be seen very clearly but most women. You can be seen clearly to the bone. It may appear to you that this is making your sales but most of the time it is probably very embarrasing. Your wife is no fool and probably sees right through you as well. Possibly if you talk to her honestly and tell you realize you are behaving inappropriately with women and learn how to be professional she may have more respect for you. Once the trust factor in marriage is broken it is a hard road back. May sound harsh but it is reality. Clean up your act and your sales just may work better for you and your wife can hold her head up when she is near you.

Answer 5

I dont think any job is worth belittling yourself down to a 20.00 dollar saloon girl..I think you do it because you like the excitement of having to flirt with no attachments and still get the sale..you should be ashamed of yourself...and of coarse it is cheating..you are lusting..You need to apologize to your wife if she will even listen and besides for her to just say this is it just like that there must be more to this story..maybe you have done something to her before simular to this effect..I can bet 10 will make me 20..Well, I think if you want her back like you say you do ...you do you better start doing some backstrokes and get to pleading and showing how much you care and how apologetic you can be ..do special things for her ..the whole nine yards starting with bunches and bunches of roses and wine and dine her..you make get the thumbs up...or you may not get the sale..Good Luck..

Answer 6

Deep down in your heart, you bloody know it's a damn lame excuse to use the nature of your job to flirt. Honestly, PROFESSIONAL sales executives don't flirt to get better sales. And your 'Dummies Guide to Selling' should be shelved for good. Quit flirting and get real!

Answer 7

Your wife is not divorcing you because of flirting; she is simply using that as the excuse to justify her leaving you, because without it, she would not be seen as being reasonable for otherwise doing so. If you hope to save the marriage, you need to find the true reason she is not happy, which probably stems from fear of some sort; since it is fear, not anger, which is love's true opposite.

Answer 8

hahaha...bro, I was in sales before, but I never have to flirt to close deal with women. It's your service that impressed them, not those cheeky words. Try explaining things to her, althought I don't think she will believe....

Answer 9

seems a hard one to balance huh?

you're in the job long enough and wife should be understanding? be more convincing to her that its an occupational hazard . . .lol.

if you can " disqualify" yourself from the sales and let a colleague do it instead. if not, just keep it to your limit and erase all evidence of the " innocent flirting" and be more convincing to wife?

Answer 10

I think you'd better read the answer from se7en again, memorize it, copy it and keep it in your wallet if you really care anything about your wife. I don't think you do.