why do i feel part of the magic was gone ever since we got married? its been only 2 months ago :(?

Question

when i met him he was so cool and exciting and wild and we did so many fun things together during the dating and engaggement phase.
most importantly HE WAS SO CARING AND INTO ME ALL THE TIME, i felt so precious ...
now i almost feel he is starting to take me for granted and stuff, as if being married means he doesnt have to make any efforts any more, and i thought it only gets better after marriage :(
btw i do my best to make him happy all the time and be involved in his work and interests, why do these things come naturally to me and not him, i always thought he was the one more in love :S

im 23 and he is 29 both first time being married, we were engagged shy over 6 months before we got married, and those 6 months were amazing he is definitely the best boyfriend there is, but as a husband :S maybe my mom was right she said dont fall for the macho type

Answer 1

Now that you're married he doesn't have to work so hard to impress you. Guys get lazy like that. That has happened to me more than once since my divorce and subsequent dating for almost 9 years. I don't think he knows HOW to be married. It's not something that comes naturally. Some guys, like my new husband, just know how to be married and they do it well. He needs some advice, maybe not from you, which will sound like nagging, but maybe from a guy friend who is married. See if you can get someone to talk to him. Are his parents still married? Maybe his dad can talk some sense into him. Like I said, it doesn't always come naturally, esp. to guys. You show you care because it's your nature. It's obviously not his. How old are you? Is this your first marriage? and how long did you date? Did you have any pre-marital counselling? You may need some now. Let me know what is happening.

Answer 2

marriage is some thing you have to both work at . neither of you have to put as much effort as before because you don't need to impress each other but it's still nice to make an effort to show you care and that you are not taken for granted but 6 months is not long i could never have decided to marry someone after only six months there is no way you could truly know each other in that time no matter what you say.

Answer 3

The grace period is over, after marriage you get comfortable and no you don't have to put forth effort you once did when dating but that doesn't mean you love the person less. Marriage is work, it doesn't come easy, it all boils down to communication even over some of the simple things, none of us are mind readers so be open and honest with him on how you feel, it's a 50/50 deal you shouldn't have to make sure he's happy if your not, you should be happy together. Take time out for each other just to talk.
Good luck and God bless

Answer 4

welcome to marriage hun,,given the excitement you probably had building up to the actual day you are bound to feel a little lost now it has actually happened,,marriage is hard work and it is not all roses,,you are still getting to know each other properly and this includes him being boring,selfish sometimes,less loving than before but you and he have to find your level of conection and this takes time,,just because things have changed a bit doesnt necessarily mean he doesnt feel the same as before,he may be quite settled in his relationship but all relationships can be improved,,spend time talking,about all kinds of things,good,bad,ugly,,try to go out and do things that include you both and make you both smile and be happy the other one is there to share it,if you miss him doing things or saying things to you,,you say them to him,,recreate the magic that got you both down the isle,,love is more than fun times,it is the ability to include the bad and find something in your partner that makes you want them there through the tough times as well as the fun,you will get there and discover something more.

Answer 5

Just talk with him tell him your problem calmly he will understand your feelings.. i think he may have some problems inside that he cannot solve and it just overlaped with your marrige.. Dont be worried no one changes after the wedding.. Dont take it persanally too.. Its just his problems help him to get over it.. you are now married and both of you are responsible of each other.. And first step to solve a problem together is to communicate.. He cannot understand your feelings or thoughts unless you tell him..

Answer 6

Its just a simple case of two young people who felt lustfull to each other,lust is not love by any means,and thats what happens to your relationship,and its a trend nowadays with young people getting married without waiting for at least a period of time to test each others strenght and weaknesses with regards to living together,lust sometimes blurrs minds and hearts,and turns young people into dreamy lovers,but once the lust dries down the special feelings that was shared,goes down with it.my advice to you if things doesnt go back to normal with your new husband,and your planning to move on.the next time you get involve in a realationship,wait for at least a period of time and learn how to defferentiate between lust and love

Answer 7

Groom him while your marriage is young. You know the saying, you can't teach an old dog new tricks. Set him straight from the start, of course with proper mannerism. Get going!!!!

Answer 8

Yeah, you should have listened to your mom. They know best, but we never do listen. He's got you now, he sees no need in showing you now that he is married to you.

Answer 9

this is a part of life you both have to work to make marriage work its not all peaches and cream all the time.

Answer 10

They say Honeymoon is over. Funnymoon starts.