I have been with my husband for 8 years . He cheats constantly.. I used to cry all the time and believe he wouldnt do it again but he always does..So now I have no kind of feelings for him I see him as my roommate now.. I met someone 6 months ago and explained to him what I have been going through , And this person makes me feel whole again just by talking with him... I haven't made love to this man as of yet.. I haven't made love to my husband in 2 years.. But I am feeling the need to share my intimacy with this man... He says he will wait for me as long as I want too wait.. He says it is no rush and plus I want to be with him for a year before I can give myself to him... I would like to know from the Men And the Woman would it be considered cheating if I made love to this man.. I like to be honest and I want to let my husband know he has lost me forever and there is no turning back because i am tired of his lies... And he has no power over me anymore.. And I am loving myself...
2006-09-24 02:08:20 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Technically since your still living with your husband,it is cheating,talk to your husband frankly about separation as soon as possible and start planning to move-on.whats the use of living with your husband when theres no feeling of intimacy but lots of insecurity and hurt feelings,and its better for you to separate with your husband first before you sleep with your other man,since your new man is more than willing to wait,take advantage of that chance, that way you will have a clear concience,and you cando whatever you want to do once the separation is over and final
2006-09-24 02:24:57 · answer #1 · answered by Lionel M 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have sex with him it is still cheating. Go ahead and get your life in order, plan ahead, when the divorce comes where will you be, where you are now or are you going somewhere else to live. Getting all this done now will help by not putting a strain on a new relationship you want to have with this other man. If you have to lean on someone when you get a divorce you will feel beholden to them or him and you will put up with stuff that you normally would not. Good luck.
2006-09-24 02:18:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I assume this new guy is not married, because if he is, you're going nowhere, he will never divorce his wife.
Now regarding your "husband" leave him, he has no love for you much less any respect. As much as I hate divorce, it seem to be the only way out. Say nothing to your husband about the other guy, that would be major mistake. You can deny having sex with him but your husband will NOT believe you all he'll say is you're do it so it;'s OK for him to continue doing it.
Contact a lawyer and follow his advice. I'm sorry you are the miserable situation you're in, but hopefully things will get better. You lawyer will handle your case and get paid after the divorce buy your ex husband. Good luck to you.
2006-09-24 02:17:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hon as long as you are still married to him,yes it is considered cheating. Why not just get a divorce and end it. You will feel totally free again,,to do what you want without worrying about that jerk. Move on with your life because he is holding you back from being happy. And dont you think you deserve to be happy??? He will never change in a million years. Dont do anything with the other man until you get divorced. Time to move on sweetie.
2006-09-24 02:12:42 · answer #4 · answered by michelle 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like your marriage is lacking on so many levels & this is why the both of you feel the need to go outside of it. Unless you both really want to make it work then I see no reason to spend years of trying to salvage something that is basically going to end anyhow. I would seriously ask for a divorce at a time when you can support yourself (job? own place?) & start your new life with this guy who makes you feel great about yourself. I think you owe it to yourself to have a life that you can find happiness in & perhaps your current husband will be able to find the contentment he hasn't got with you anymore.
Best of luck with this - tough situation but really, you do deserve to be happy. Just, no one else needs to be hurt because of all this so do it right.
2006-09-24 02:16:52 · answer #5 · answered by shirazzza 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know why you are still with your husband. Leave him, it sounds like you should have left him along time ago. I am glad to hear that you haven't slept with him in 2 years though, who knows what you could of and would have been sleeping with him. If was a smart move to stop sleeping with him. Get divorced and move on with you life. You deserve to be happy and live a good life. Only you can change what is going on, make yourself happy and live a good life. Good Luck
2006-09-24 02:15:52 · answer #6 · answered by Sexy-n-Hot 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you can't have it both ways. Make a choice. If it was me, and 2 yrs. went by, I'd get a divorce, and move on to something better. It's better to finish one thing before starting another, (2 yrs. is tough, especially when you've got someone wanting and waiting for you.)Your "husband" is loving someone else, and he won't change. Get out, before you sit there year after year, watching him with others. This is not a good life.
2006-09-24 02:16:18 · answer #7 · answered by Scorpius59 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should leave him, i was married for 2 years and he cheated, not with a woman but with lies, I loved him, but then living a lie is not nice.
I left him 3 years ago, he hates me for this, because I left with our baby, for two years I wanted no man, and then the right person came, we live together.
So I think the best thing to do is to take care of your heart, and look for what you think you deserve, if you think you deserve to be with a cheater, then stay there, never close your doors, if a nice person came give him a chance, he might be the one.
2006-09-24 02:14:21 · answer #8 · answered by Sigrid A 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it's considered cheating. Don't bring yourself down to your husband's level. Be better. I'm surprised that you and your husband are still married, considering all his activities. Why are you still married? Does he "need" you for anything? You need to finish things with your husband, get him out of your life before you can start things up with this other man.
2006-09-24 02:14:00 · answer #9 · answered by kitten lover3 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
" I like to be honest and I want to let my husband know he has lost me forever"
Your own words, get a divorce! You have empowered your husband to be a serial cheater by not doing so before. You can't control any one else's actions.
If you are going to get into a new relationship, get a divorce first, do it the right way.
2006-09-24 02:14:11 · answer #10 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋